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Conception Frustrations?

If you're trying to conceive and it's taking longer than you had hoped, what frustrations are you running into? Is it that just about everyone around you seems to be pregnant? Or, something someone said? Or, is you-know-who (your mom, his mom...) pressuring you or asking when way too often? Does it sometimes feel like TTC is more like Trying to Cope?

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Posted by: happyending on Aug 7, 2008
Conception Frustrations?

Why not me?

Been TTC 5 months now. Had ruptured ectopic preg in 2003...lost one tube and part of one ovary in emergency surgery (on my honeymoon!). At 33 I'm REALLY feeling like my time is running out. AF came Aug 1...time to try again soon. Kinda feeling like I'm the only one that I know that hasn't had a child yet. Bummer of a day.

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Posted by: nadiaappia on Jul 21, 2008
Conception Frustrations?

TTC still coming to terms with saying yeas!

Iv been TTC since November 2007. I know its actually not that long, and im prepared for the fact it may never happen but still!! Im almost 36 and have two wonderful children from my previous relationship, girl and boy, 13yrs and 11yrs. I truely feel blessed with what i have, however, i would dearly like to have another child, as i had always wanted 5 daughters, yes, i come from a large family mainly of women and since my earliest memory i wanted a large family also.boy or girl, doesnt matter.

I had my daughter 10 days shy of my 22nd birthday, and my son 2.5 yrs later. My partner informed me he wouldnt be having any more children after the age of 30 as he would be too old, how times change. I work with children and for the past 20 yrs have done so in many differing capacities and for the most enjoyed all of it, however, now i have deffinietley talked myself into having another child everything seems so so much harder. Not to mention of the children i work with (10) at present,since November last, 3 mothers have given birth, we are expecting a further 4 babies in the next two months and if thats not bad enough my sister gave birth 2 weeks ago, my brother is due in two weeks and my bestest friend has a daughter of 7mths, trust me, i couldnt be happier for them, and i dont feel sad when im with the babies, just happy. My mum had my littles sister at 38yrs and my nan was 42 when giving birth to mum so im not panicking but who knows it may be my time soon, heres hoping.

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Posted by: Mindless_Clone on Jul 19, 2008
Conception Frustrations?

I must be nuts to do this all over again.

Why am I even bothering? It's all going to end in tears and heaven knows I've had enough of them to last a lifetime.

It took 9 years, 8 months of clomid, countless dignity destroying tests and then 6 IVF attempts, a miscarriage before I could hold my own baby in my arms instead of avoiding holding other people's in case I break down.

18 months later and here I am thinking about a sibling and wondering whether nature might grant me a miracle this time to save me the hassle? I can't emotionally, put myself through IVF again, but I can't cope with the thought that I won't ever have another child. I can't describe how incredibly empowering it would be to conceieve naturally after all that - I've seen so many have it happen to them. Why not me?

So here we go, back to the fertility diet, the vitamins, the OPKs, the timed intercourse and legs up the wall afterwards in the vain hope that if, by some miracle, I did ovulate this month my old man's slightly dodgy swimmers can find the one tube that works and see their way to fertilising an egg.

And while I make myself miserable when the old bag arrives each month, will I miss out on the truely wonderful gift I already have?

Is it worth it?

Why can't I just switch off this desire for another child?

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Posted by: pregnancybugagain on Jul 18, 2008
Conception Frustrations?

Seems hopeless

Seems all I can say right off is husband and I when getting pregnant with our first had a very hard time...I had 3 miscarriages before we concieved him. We dont seem to get much time to ttc due to him being military. And of course currently he's deployed. Just about everyone I know is pregs and it kills me...we want a girl soo bad and are tryin to keep our fingers crossed but I worry after what I went through with our youngest son, that I might not be able to have anymore, the drs reassured us that we can, right after he left I had a miscarriage, and than 7 1/2 months later he was home...i almost feel like my dreams for a girl is lost....I dont know what is more heartbreaking anymore, my husband being gone, or me not being able to get preg...

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Posted by: minimable on Jul 16, 2008
Conception Frustrations?



It is 11 months since my partner and I started ttc but still no joy. My cycle is on average 45 days but can go from 40 days to 50 days so find it hard to tell when im ovulating. I am currently 10 days late for my period and have done two hpt (one on day I was due and one 7 days later) and has two bfn!!!!

I just wish that I knew what was wrong but have to 12 months before can see GP.

Never though it would take this long!!!

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Posted by: Kerrie2006 on Jul 15, 2008
Conception Frustrations?

Trying for 3 years...FRUSTRATED!!!

I have been using MyMonthlyCycles for over 2 years now but this is the first time I have been on this message board. I was SURPRISED to see I was not alone not only in my problem but also in how I have been feeling.

I have been married for almost 11 years and have been TTC for almost 3 years. We did get pregnant back in Nov of 06 but I miscarried a few days before Christmas of 06. Ectopic pregnancy they called it. I had to have one fallopian tube removed. We have been TRYING hardcore ever since. We tried sex every other day not knowing when I was ovulating. Finally broke down and tried the ovulation kits which we have been using for a little less than a year now. Nothing. My husband and I are getting so frustrated that it is beginning to affect our marriage.

To make matters worse... My cousin just had a baby on June 26th. Funny thing is, SHE DIDNT EVEN KNOW SHE WAS PREGNANT!!! I was up there just before they diagnosed her and was shocked when I found out. I was shocked, happy, and then immediately became jealous and very upset. I have been trying for 3 years now; she doesn?t try and gets the job done. I want children so incredibly bad; she had no desire to have children. In the scheme of things.... HOW IS THIS FAIR??? Don't get me wrong. I love my cousin and I am incredibly happy for her and she is extremely lucky to have had a beautiful HEALTHY baby boy, but I still can't help to be jealous.

I see my Doctor on July 22nd. I have read several of these posts and have come up with questions about drugs, shots, procedures, that I had no idea existed that I plan on asking my DR about... Is there anything you think I should be asking? After 3 years of trying and what seems to be endless frustration I hope this is just the beginning and not the end... Please help. If you think there is anything I should be asking about, drugs, procedures, anything... I honestly don?t know what to ask her other then.... WHY AM I NOT GETTING PREGANT AND WHAT CAN I DO TO CHANGE THAT?

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