Conception Frustrations?

My husband and I were sure we didn't want any children for a ittle while into our marriage. We got married very young and I felt that being a teacher, I could channel my maternal instincts onto my students and we could still have the freedom of being without children to travel, etc. Eight years into our marriage, I feel (obviously irrationally) like we are being somehow punished for these feelings because we are ready for children more than ever, and are experiencing trouble. We have been trying techinically for 2 years, but not since we were trying to stay withing my teaching schedule. Of course when we start trying, my periods get irregular and I get cysts.
When I started telling people about these troubles, I was astonished at how insensitive people could be. "Just don't think about it and it'll happen" is the famous saying... "don't think about it"?? It's all that I &*@% think about!!

I cant seem to get pregnant...I have been trying and trying... and it doesn't seem to happen... a few friends told me to stand on my head afterwards...Doe that really work?? Everyone I know are having babies and it makes me sad.. not for them but for me...I just keep thinking i am not meant to be a mommy or something..But I know I would be an excellent Mother...I have helped raise my aunts kids and I have babysat kids upon kids for years...I love kids... But it seems i am not blessed enough to have an of my own...From: Feeling really down in Ohio

I have been trying since May and have not had luck and I have had 2 miscarriages in the past year. I had one in December and One in may. All i think about is having another baby and everyone around me seems to be having babies. I have decied to stop trying because last month I made myself feel like I was pregnant to the point that I took a test and then a day later started my period. I will keep everyone here in my thoughts but please send prays my way. I have learned from all of this that God does everything for a reason. I do have a little girl and she wants to be a big sis so bad so I just need to focus on her to get my mind off of having another baby. I know that God only gives us what we can handle and he must think that I am a really strong person

I know where you ladies are coming from. My husband and i have been married a little over 3 years. I went off Birth control last May. we wern't using any birth control, because we figured that we would have trouble concieving when we were ready to have children. (i have numerous "girl problems") needless to say, we were surprised in November and found out I was pregnant! We were beside ourselves with excitement and our parents and family was as well. i immediately started having different health problems and it seemed like one weird thing after another was happening to me... (i got the shingles, kidney stones, tendonitis, cellulitis...then i started spotting. the doctors all told me i was fine and had nothing to worry about...but when i was almost 13 weeks along, i had an obgyn visit and a doctor that i had never spoken to before looked at my chart and started questioning everything the previoius doctors had told me... he sent me for an emergency ultrasound, and 2 days before christmas we found out that we had lost the baby.
i underwent an emergency D&E on new years day, and hemorrhaged very severly...
ever since, my periods have been really irregular and weird... i am using a fertility monitor, checking my cervix and monitoring my days... and it has been 8 months now and nothing... this last month was the worst, because my little one should be 2 weeks old now... soo sad...
it is helpful to know that i am not the only one in the world going through this! and you are all in my thoughts and prayers...
thanks for letting me vent


-Kira

Jamie1,

When I was reading your story I thought I wrote it myself. I have been married for 3 years and we started trying about 6 months ago and nothing yet. I thought for sure this month was it, I got my period yesterday. I also am very sad and everyone says don't think about it. It is very hard not to, I really want this, bad!

I have been married 3 years now & I had a fear all along that when i would be ready to begin ttc I wouldn't be able to and sure enough we're not. I got off of birth control as soon as I got married for this very same reason and we relied on the rhythm method. My periods were predictable every month on the dot for the last 3 years. But it seems that as soon as we decided to ttc my periods became irregular. After the 1st month of trying I then somehow skipped the next month and did not get a period, then i got it the next two months but again skipped this month. This month was especially hard because I really thought we were pregnant. I had an upset stomach and no signs of my period but much to my disappointment i wasn't pregnant. So now I have to wait until my period comes in late August to start all over the tracking system of when I am suppose to ovulate. I am trying not to stress and I don't think I am but I am sad. I cry sometimes because I feel it's so unfair but all I could do is hope for the best. Hopefully my menstrual cycle will begin to cooperate. My doctor says that stress can cause me to skip my periods they don't seem to think anything is wrong. But I'm suppose to go back in 3 months to do a full workup.