TTC Frustrations a year in

It is now a year TTC. I thought it would be so easy but was I ever mistaken. I had normal periods until Jan. 2010 and for three months my AF was lasting 16-18 days with heavy flow. Went to the ER found out it was stress and that I had fibroids. So I had laproscopic-exploritory surgery in April. Fibroid is the size of a baseball, not inside my uterus but on top of it causing a cave-in efect. Dr says I am ovulating and everything looks great but when I getpregnant I will have trouble with implantation and will it will be a high risk pregnancy for the 1st trimester. This was in April, he said go home TTC for 3 months if not pregnant by then come see me. I am now on month 3 of TTC. My husband is discouraged by all the insane planning I do and wants it to "just happen". Well me too but obviously that is not happening for us. I'm sick of hearing of others getting pregnant and thinking every month I am. People tell me not to think about it and it will happen. How do I do that?? My biggest complaint is my hubby not being on the same page as me with ovulation, its like I tell him these are the days we must BD and he gets mad he doesnt like to be on a schedule. So last month we did it his way I said nothing about TTC and guess what AF came today so I told him next month its my way all the way!