TTC - To Say or Say Not?

When people assume that you have not had problems concieving and ask when you are going to have a baby.... Its like ahh duh I would if I could!

I never tell anyone I am ttc. Because for 1 everytime you get a BFN, it would make me feel like a failure, if everyone keeps asking "you not pregnant yet, or when is the baby going to be here."

nearly a year ... and still trying! the worst thing is my twin sister has just announced shes pregnant! :) im really excited and can't wait but full of baby envy at the same time!, i've been off the pill for a year and a half now so thats definately not something thats could be wrong! ....

i dunno.... c'est la vie!

Ok...

My husband and I were not planning on having our 1st child but we did. (Seeing how I was not on any birth control.)

Well, our son is 6 now and everyone is telling us it is time to have another baby. (Five years of Depo shots does not help either!) I have investigated that Depo take 1-2 years to clear out of my system. We are trying desperately to have an second child. (I have been off of Depo for 1 ½ years now.) Could you imagine if we told people that we were actively trying? We would not hear the end of it.

I like that idea of trying for another child. (It is always fun to try.) I just do not need the added pressure of people saying, "I thought you guys were trying to have another baby? What's going on?"

See you will always have your critics that will try to nit and pick at everything you are doing. Weather it is right or wrong.

You will have the ones that tell you exactly what to do. (As if I have not tried everything in the book yet.)

It is already stressfull to try to conceive if you are having problems I just do not need anyone else to add to that.

You know, this is a hard subject because, for those of us who don't get preggy at the drop of a hat, it can feel very much like an interrogation month after month, insult heaped upon injury. On the other hand, when we do tell, not the world in general, but 1 or 2 that we really trust, we do have someone to vent to, someone to hold our hand and be our cheerleaders, and someone who's shoulder we can cry on if something doesn't go as planned.
With my 1st pregnancy I told almost everyone as I was really excited. Had a miscarriage about 2 weeks after I got the good news. It was very upsetting to say the least, but I couldn't imagine having to go around as if nothing had happened because no one knew. Yes, it was hard at first to talk about, but then I came to the realization that although it was sad, it was a part of life. I ended up having a successful pregnancy after that, and everyone was overjoyed for me. It more than made up for the pain of before.
Since then I have had 1 more MC and 1 full term, and I still hold true to the rule of letting the ones you trust know, and let everyone else figure it out when you are ready!
Even though it takes time, trying should be fun. If you can't share the joy, or get uplifted by those who care, you could open yourself up to a lot more stress and feelings of alienation than necessary. Hope springs eternal!

This is ticky!
I think telling everyone is a no no. It will lead to lots of stress if things don't happen quickly or you have lots of problems.
Not telling anyone again if very difficult because you been someone for those times you really need to blow off steam or as a question.

I decided that I wasn't going to tell anyone because I thought I would be giving them good news in 6 weeks max. Several months later and still no good news so i am really glad i didnt say anything because i would have them all asking.
The heartbreak is bad enough each month without telling everyone as well.

It would be nice to have somone to talk to and as silly questions but i just focus on being able to share good news sometime soon.