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TTC After M/C

Are you trying to conceive after one or more miscarriages? How long did you (or will you) wait until TTC again? Who or what has been helpful to you during your difficult time: faith, the support of your partner/friends/families (or did you find them unable to relate?), others who you now found out also m/c'd...

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Posted by: deedub on Sep 16, 2013
TTC After M/C

TTC after 1st MC, worried about my support system

I lost my third pregnancy back on March 21, 2013. DH and I were not TTC nor were we preventing so it came as a total shock. I, honestly, thought I had a horrible UTI. I had just had, what I thought was, my period two weeks before that. I have wanted another baby for over 2 yrs now so I was devastated! I never have talked to anyone in great detail about what it was like to MC so the entire process was traumatizing, to say the very least. However, we have decided as of last month to TTC again. DH is 34, I am 31 and we don't want too much space between our 7 and 3 yr old boys and our next baby.

I am excited but worried. Among my concerns are my support system. My mom, my sister and I are very close but they acted as if the mc didn't happen. They never offered to help my during my recovery(other than the initial ER visit and one other blood test apt.) and never asked how I was doing nor did they really even acknowledge it. I don't know if it's because they didn't know how to show support or what but I am really hurt by it still. Now, I am worried that they will not be supportive about us TTC and will have too much worry about me. I don't want to push them away but if they are not positive about my next pregnancy, I may have to. Can anyone relate??

Overall Relate Rating: 4 Ratings

Posted by: sponge on Sep 13, 2013
TTC After M/C

want to try again, but i'm...

Hi guys. My Dh 31 and I 30 have been ttc for over 2 yrs now. I have pcos and was on 5th cycle on clomid, dr was only allowing me one more cycle on clomid before we had to stop and try something else, so it kinda worked out for the best "at least now we know it's possible for me to get pregnant" (exact words of my dr) anyway on my 5th round I got bfp 06/2013. The week after i found out i had an incomplete miscarriage at 5weeks. I was so devastated, still am to be honest and it's now 7 weeks past my D&C. dr recommended we start ttc again after 2 af's. That should be in November, I want to try but i'm terrified of this happening again.

Overall Relate Rating: 2 Ratings

Posted by: veetkd72 on Dec 27, 2012
TTC After M/C

TTC after stillborn

I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks in 2011. Several months later I was excited to know that I was pregnant again. After a very healthy pregnancy, on Easter Sunday 2012 I delivered my perfectly healthy son at 30 weeks stillborn. We are completely devastated and confused from our loss, but we finally decided to start trying again in September. I have been pregnant 3 times with two losses, but have never had any problems trying to conceive up until now. It's been 8 months since we loss our son, and every single month that I get my period, it's like reliving my loss all over again. I swear everywhere I look I see pregnant people or people that I know are telling me they are pregnant. It's difficult not to be jealous or envious all though I am happy for anyone that can get pregnant knowing how babies are true miracles....Just wondering if anyone else is having trouble conceiving after a 3rd trimester loss of a healthy baby? ugghhhhh

Overall Relate Rating: 5 Ratings

Posted by: silentdreamer on Nov 22, 2012
TTC After M/C

TTC with PCOS/PCOD

2nd m/c beginning today at 5w6d. Extremely glad for such supportive spouse during this time. He was with me at the ER & for the U/S. Lots of cramping on the right side where I have been known to have cysts on my ovary. Dr. appt again on Monday. I am determined to find out why at 26 years old I am having such a terrible time staying pregnant. Ovulation is around Dec 8. Not sure if I'll be ready to try again so soon. I'm thinking of taking a few months off to get back in shape and get my hormones straightened out and possibly get any medicine I might need.

Has anyone had any luck with Metformin? Or been able to stay preg. with PCOS/PCOD? I was advised to lose some weight. Went from 250lbs+ to 160lbs and STILL having problems.

Overall Relate Rating: 1 Ratings

Posted by: TOS on Oct 18, 2012
TTC After M/C

How to not be THAT person

Hi all,
I had my first pregnancy which started this past June (2012) and then M/C in late August, I was 11 weeks. What a terrible, horrendous experience, that I now know people can never relate to unless they have been there themselves, or at least been pregnant.

We weren't officially TTC at that time - I had been off B/C for ~4 months, started to track BBT and ready to try soon - I was so happy that it happened easily.

But now, how do we move forward? My cycle is all out of whack it seems, just had 1 really short one followed by now a long one. I guess we will more "officially" TTC in the next few weeks.

Really though, I need to find a way not to be THAT person - feeling like I die inside every time I see someone I know who is pregnant. None of my close friends or family have come out with that sort of news lately, but I work in a moderate-sized company (~2000 employees at my location), and have worked there for many years, so there are a lot of people I know peripherally. Every time I see YET ANOTHER person who is pregnant (or hear that someone's wife is), I just HATE that feeling I get. I want to be happy for them, but I just can't! Instead I feel miserable about myself. And this is just not me - not the type of person I am.

It would be nice to know that I'm not alone...

Overall Relate Rating: 8 Ratings

Posted by: KdV on Sep 12, 2012
TTC After M/C

Frustrated

I miscarried twins 9 months ago. I went in for my first scan at 10 weeks and found out that my babies had stopped developing at 6 weeks. They were mono amniotic twins, meaning the egg split late and they were sharing a sac. I was devistated and it has taken me a long time to feel normal again.
My husband and I decided to try to fall pregnant again as soon as possible but 10 months later we have still had no luck. My gyno keeps saying that he doesnt think that we should have a problem falling pregnant but even after taking Fertomid for 3 months - nothing. I am so frustrated. My cycle is also getting longer on fertomid (32 days this month, 31 last month and 28 the month before) - this is luckily the last month before a break.
I am not sure that I want to make another appointment with the doc again because I am feeling so worn out. I just wish that I knew what was going on and why I am not falling pregnant. I fell pregnant within 2 months of trying the first time. How long did it take others to fall pregnant and how did you keep your hopes up?

Overall Relate Rating: 1 Ratings

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