TTC - To Say or Say Not?
While Trying to Conceive, have you found others (even people you barely know) asking prying questions or offering unsolicited advice? Do you think they mean well and just don't think, or are they being meddling and/or on the rude side? Do you respond, ignore it, brew over it all night...?
Posted by:
Sihaya
on Sep 9, 2010
TTC - To Say or Say Not?
Parents and In-Law issues
My Husband and I are trying to concieve but I am scared to tell any of our family. My best friend knows, and my doctor knows. We have been married for 2 and a half years and we believe we are ready. But I think that because I'm only 20 and he's only 23 that our family will try to convince us it is not a good idea. I don't want his family to say something and then him change his mind about trying because of the nagging. But I'm torn, because they are family and I want to tell. I am excited, I want them to be excited for me also!
Posted by:
j58
on Jun 1, 2010
TTC - To Say or Say Not?
To tell or not to tell
Im torn between telling ppl that we are ttc or not. My hubby says he doent want anyone to know b/c of the nagging and questions that would be constant. I feel the same we always said when we decided to ttc we were going to wait until we were at least 8-10wks in (b/c you never know what could happen). Its so exciting and scary at the same time (will be our 1st child) I would love some one to talk to about it. I mean my hubby and I do talk about it but its not the same as having a girl friend to talk to about it. And of course this was a decision that we made together but you know most guys they dont have that much input on things like this. He is just stuck on not telling anyone. What should I do?
Posted by:
Broody24
on Feb 24, 2010
TTC - To Say or Say Not?
TTC so soon after having a baby!
So I have 2 kids. My son is 5 and my daughter is 9 months old. My partner and I are hoping to have at least 2 more children. We thought we were expecting again as I was late, But the test was negative and AF finally showed 3 days late. We were actually disappointed about that and we talked about having another. So we are hoping that within the year or next, we will get pregnant. Anyway people think its crazy to start trying so soon after having a baby and some of my family go on and on about birth control and how you don't want to be stuck with kids so close in age etc.. Children are a blessing and they don't stay young forever. I hate feeling stupid now because I am so crazy for another one and when I do fall pregnant with #3 I will actually dread to tell people as I know the reaction will be ''Already'' or something like that. Please tell me I am not the only one with friends and family that have such negative talk..
Sorry for the ramble but I just needed to get that off my chest..
Posted by:
hamster
on Feb 23, 2010
TTC - To Say or Say Not?
dont want people thinking of me bd'ing!
We're TTC #3, and not telling anyone. I dont think it is my friend and family's business to know DH & I are BDing like crazy. ugh. lol.
We'll wait til we get a BFP and then tell them that we are pg and yes we were trying...
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Posted by:
Maddie72188
on Jan 19, 2010
TTC - To Say or Say Not?
My advice, keep it to yourselves
unless your 1000% sure you can trust the person not to blab to others or ask repeatedly. I had a feeling we would have trouble ttc and, after ttc for three years, and struggling with that question, my advice is don't tell anyone. While I think my mom suspects, i've only told my BF in the whole world, who has been nice and not prying about it. I've hinted to others like my niece, who has been like a sister to me, as we are close in age (wasn't a good idea) and SO accidentally let it slip that we MAY have problems when his mom asked when we going to have children (which was a BAD idea, she launched into a hypochroniacal speech about how she had SO much trouble conceiving SO, note, she was SIXTEEN, how much trouble could she have had?, she also has four (three at the time) other children, nuff said). Other relatives, like my cousin (who is to be a father in July) and my grandmother have asked (but not been pushy), all I tosay is, someday (secretly wanting to shout, I HOPE NOW). I think making the decision to not tell anyone was the right one at least for us, talking to other TTCers, USUALLY not saying anything was the best way to go, no rude prying questions or well meaning unsolicited advice etc. My advice is, if your not 1000% sure the person you tell is a supportive and private person, I would keep it to yourself.
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Posted by:
mbelcher
on Jan 15, 2010
TTC - To Say or Say Not?
My mother-in-law tricked me into admitting to TTC
I'm STILL fuming over this and it happened two months ago!! My husband and I decided in October to start TTC the following cycle. We happened to be in our home state visiting in November.
I was sitting with my mother-in-law and a few of my husband's siblings. Mother-in-law exclaimed "So I heard you're off birth control and trying for a baby! I'm so excited!!" So I assumed my husband had told her, even though we'd agreed to keep quiet about it for a while. So I continued the conversation under that assumption and confirmed that we were trying.
Well it turns out, he told her nothing of the sort. She was just hoping it was true and trying to trick it out of one of us.
I'm so angry!! We were keeping it to ourselves for a reason!! And just as I expected, she had told every single member of his family within 24 hours. So we're being inundated with "How's the baby-making going" phone calls and prying emails. Where's my privacy??