Live for today as well as hoping for the future

My partner and got married because we wanted to start a family and while we were happy as a couple it seemed right to get married before becoming parents. That was a year and a half ago. I'm 36 now. We're disappointed that it has happened for us yet.

I can relate to those ladies who say that some people tell them to get on with it coz they're getting older. Firstly, you can't plan when to meet the man you want to be the father of your children and also wanting it to happen doesn't make it happen so other people really should be more thoughtful when they pass comment.

We've seen the doctor and been checked out. Everything is ok with both of our bits so far and the next stage is to get my tubes checked. Of corse, it could just happen in the mean time. And as I'm learning, see the fertility doctor is no guarantee of success either.

I agree with all the previous posts in that ever since we've been trying it seems everyone around me is falling pregnant - whether they wanted to or not! Every month when my period is due I work out when the baby would be born and start to get excited. I read elsewhere about feeling the need to go to the loo "every trickle; every tickle" and its so funny coz that's exactly how it is.

I've come to realise though in listening to other women's stories, that there are worse things than not falling pregnant. Becoming pregnant and not going full term, or losing a child. And some women have had these things happen again and again. How awful.

My husband and I wish and hope so much for some children to make our lives complete but we shall be happy together regardless and grateful for the blessings we already have.

Good luck to all you TTC ladies! But don't let your life pass you by in the mean time.