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You, TTC, and Your Partner
Your Trying to Conceive partner is, of course, there physically. Is he also emotionally
supportive, especially if you get a BFN when you hoped this would be the month? Is he open to on-going TTC related talk when you want/need it?
Trying to get DH to talk about Adoption
Posted by:
nhutchens
on Sat May 24, 2008
DH and I have been TTC for over 2 years now. We've done all the tests and everything has come back normal. The doc recommends IUI, but with nothing wrong, I just don't see what the differance is between IUI and 24 months of charting and timed intercourse. It's very exspensive (our insurance doesn't cover anything to do with fertility or testing).
Before we saw the RE, we discussed it breifly and agreed that we would talk about adoption before we did anything drastic (like IUI or IVF). If we do the IUI's and they don't work, we will have lost money that we could use toward adoption.
I've tried to talk to my husband about adoption, but he just says he doesn't know how he feels about it and changes the subject. This has happened on several occassions. It scares me. What if IUI doesn't work, and he decides that he doesn't want to adopt. Will I ever have a child? He says he would like to try IUI, but he wants to wait another year or so for that as well. I'm 30 years old now - I don't want to wait any longer. I always thought that at the very least, by the time I was 30, I would be working on child number 2 ... not still praying for number 1.
Before we saw the RE, we discussed it breifly and agreed that we would talk about adoption before we did anything drastic (like IUI or IVF). If we do the IUI's and they don't work, we will have lost money that we could use toward adoption.
I've tried to talk to my husband about adoption, but he just says he doesn't know how he feels about it and changes the subject. This has happened on several occassions. It scares me. What if IUI doesn't work, and he decides that he doesn't want to adopt. Will I ever have a child? He says he would like to try IUI, but he wants to wait another year or so for that as well. I'm 30 years old now - I don't want to wait any longer. I always thought that at the very least, by the time I was 30, I would be working on child number 2 ... not still praying for number 1.
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