You, TTC, and Your Partner
Your Trying to Conceive partner is, of course, there physically. Is he also emotionally supportive, especially if you get a BFN when you hoped this would be the month? Is he open to on-going TTC related talk when you want/need it?

Miscarriage, Mentally scared husband & Frustrated wife TTC!

Posted by: fingerscrossed1 on Fri Mar 27, 2009

Last year i got pregnant the first month we tried but unfortunately when we went for the twelve week scan in July we found out i had a silent miscarriage at about 9 weeks. My husband saw me in a lot of pain and it really effected him. Since then we have been TTC but no luck!

Unfortunately i have the added frustration of my husband wanting to try one month and then not the next. Its not because he doesn't want a baby, he's just scared of losing another.

Since my miscarriage my sister has had a baby girl, my husband's cousin was who is 17 was due 2 days after me and has had a baby girl, 3 friends have had babies, my best friend is now 5 months pregnant and there are loads of others that i know that are pregnant and i find that wherever you look theres someone pregnant - even on corrie!

Also since my miscarriage my periods that used to be like clockwork have now started to vary from 25 to 32 days - is this due to stress????

Please can anyone give me advice on how to help my husband? He says he doesn't want to pressured into loads of sex just because its the right time but then get frustrated if it happens once but then i don't get pregnant! I've also noticed that ive started to have mood swings due to the frustration of TTC which probably won't help!

When i have talked to friends, they say that i need to give my husband time, think of his feelings becuase he was really hurt by the miscarriage - but what about my feelings, frustrations and needs?

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