14+ months TTC and not handling it well.

My husband (33) and I (31) have been TTC since March 2008. I figured it wouldn't be too difficult... you just stop using birth control and that's it. It worked that way for my mom, shouldn't it work for me too? I couldn't have been more hopelessly wrong. I went to the dr in Sept 2008 and was diagnosed with PCOS. This was devastating news. I was already dealing with my sister's pregnancy and several friends were pregnant right around the same time so I felt even worse. One friend got pregnant by accident while on BCP... why was I the only one trying and not getting anywhere?!
So for months, I've been reading books and charting temps, POAS every other day and dying inside during every TWW. It's getting harder and harder to not let people know of our difficulties as I just want them to know what their "harmless" comments are actually doing to me when they say "you're not getting any younger", or "why haven't you started having kids yet?" or "getting pregnant is so easy" - that comes from a couple who had their 3 kids just by looking at each other.
During ovulation and the TWW, I sometimes get so mad at my husband for waiting so long before we got married (13 years together, 2 years married) and starting a family. I get mad at my family and friends for being successful at getting pregnant. And the only one I can be mad at is myself for not finding out about all this fertility stuff earlier. It's hard for me to hang out with most friends now while they are planning Baby #2 or #3 and I still haven't gotten #1 conceived.

My husband, while supportive, doesn't seem to understand this feeling of anxiety and hopelessness that I feel during every cycle. I don't let him know that I cry sometimes because I think that will upset him. I'm on day 13 of the TWW... I'm too scared to test. The BFN eats me up inside. Does any one have any advice or at least sympathy?!

Wishing you all tons of luck and baby dust. May it happen soon for us all.