TTC - To Say or Say Not?

I am really having a hard time with this trying to conceive stuff, and with the holidays coming up it is really getting depressing seeing all of my cousin with their babies and their cute outfits. Dont get me wrong I love them so much and think of them as my nephews and neices, but I want my chance to show of my offspring. My grandmother isn't helping, she just keeps telling me, well if you cant get pregnant then I will help you adopt. That isn't the problem, b/c I want to adopt, but right now I want to have my own baby. YOu know, something that is half me and half of the love of my life. What is the worst part is that I got pregnant before all of them, and I would have a four year old this Dec. That really hurts so bad. It hurt so bad that I have waited until now to try again. And of course I got pregnant the first try last time, which doesnt help. And all the research that I have done has said that if your under 35, give it a year, well its been 8 months and no baby yet. I know that I am overweitht but I see people who are bigger than me get pregnant all the time. My husband is really getting depressed about the whole thing and I am so scared that he is going to give up on me. Its not my fault that I don't ovualte every month. And wouldn't know that in Sept I decided to take a break b/c it was stressing us so bad, and guess what. I ovulated. Wouldn't that just make you so happy, well it didn't me. Why is it that people can have babies all the time and don't take care of them, but people who really want to have one, can't? I am just so upset, sorry to fint like this, but I just got my month vister that really wasn't not welcome this month, at all. I mean this month would have been perfect you know, I want to wait until I am 12 weeks before I tell anyone, and guess what week Christmas is? Yeah you guessed it my 12 week. Great!!!!!!! This is just not far!!!!!

I think some mean well while others just try to act as if they have finished med school and are open for practice. The best thing to do is be as patient as possible and try to sort through what people say very carefully. Some of the advice as cazy as it sounds just may work.

I agree that I am so sick of people telling me to relax - how do you relax when you want a baby so darn bad. I wish I hadn't told anyone that we were trying but I was getting sick of hearing, "when are you two going to have a baby", so one day I blurted out, "We are trying, okay?" What was I thinking? I think it should be kept between a couple because when it doesn't happen right away, to put it bluntly....sucks!

Everyone is offering their advice like "relax it will happen" but i didn't know infertility knows when you are relaxing :( If it was that easy there would be no need for infertility clinics and ivf.
I just nod my head and say yep i'm sure it will happen and thats it.
I think they mean well but they just don't get it

NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER TELL PEOPLE YOU ARE TRYING TO CONCEIVE!!!!!! We learned this very quickly. I was one of the naive people who thought that as soon as I started trying, it would happen. Well EIGHT months later all I have is way too many people telling me what I need to be doing to get pregnant. I swear if one more person tells me to relax about it, I was freak out. Relaxing will not increase my husband's sperm count. I don't want to divulge this information to them, obviously because it would be inconsiderate to my hubby. Unless you are prepared for akward situations (ex. A really old co-worker going into detail about which positions we should try), and people offering their unsolicited opinion then keep your mouth shut about it.

Ok so some history, dh and I have been married for 4 years and our oldest DD will be 4 in a few days, I also have a 2 1/2 year old DD and a 11month old DS, and we are TTC! There I said it, I am so sick of people saying "What? you are trying for ANOTHER one?!!!" as if it is against the law!!! I know it takes at least 6 months for us to get pregnant so I figure we will start trying now. Besides there is nothing wrong with us wanting another baby, or two or more! We are great parents and able to take care of our children so why not, I love everything about being a mom and I love being pregnant!!! I just wanna say "MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS PEOPLE!!!!"