SAHM or Working Mom?

I was a stay at home mom for a while ( until my child started elementary ) and I loved it. But it is up to each individual to decide what is best for them. I have been working full time for a few years now( the extra cash is nice ) but am planning on having my 2nd child soon and I have decided to stay at home because that is whats best for my family. I enjoy being around my kids and my husband enjoys the fact that everything is taken care of at home while he is away ( which gives him more family time when he gets home )My mother was a working mom so I support both. You just need to find whats right for you.

I think being a stay at home mom would be good if its for you. I do not think its for me. The longest i stayed at home with my babies was 5 months and it drove me nuts!! I dont think you have to spend every waking moment with your kiddos. It gets them way to attach i think. My son and daughter loves it when im home, but to much time with them can cause stress for you and your babies dont like to see the stress. I work part time and it is pretty much my alone time (with out kiddos) to be sane!! When my youngest starts school i am going to be a stay at home mom so school will be the get away time lol. I love my kids and the time i do spend with them! I hardly get to stressed out because i am always missing them when im away!! But I look up to those who do stay at home!!

After TTC for 5 years, my husband and I are the proud parents of triplets. We have two girls and one boy. I only ovulate every now and then and multiples do run in my mother's family. Although, no multiples had been born in a few generations.

Our children were very healthy and were born at 33 wks and 4 days. Thanks to God they didn't have any real trouble and were able to come home one at a time. I stayed at home with them for 5 months and actually thought I was going crazy. I love our children and we have the best time. My husband and I are very hands on, even with both our families living in our town, and we care for our children on our own. We rarely had people coming by to help us feed or let us sleep. We waited years for these children and we wanted to share this experience ourselves, not with others.

After 5 months, I decided to go back to work and our Mother's took turns keeping the babies. They turned one in December and this past January they started daycare. I feel more rested sitting at my desk and working than I do at home. Our children are having a wonderful time playing with other children and learning new things. For us the experience has been wonderful.

I will cut back to part time once they start school. I want to take them to school, do field trips, pick them up from school and help with homework, etc. But for now, this is what we're doing to make it day by day.

If you could do it, financially and mentally, go for it.
It has been the best three years of my life (so far). I hate to say it but he is my best friend. I get so many compliments on how smart and polite he is. I think it is because I am there to give him the one on one he wouldn't get in day care or with a babysitter. Sure I don't get a lot of time to myself, but each day with him is like a new day. To experience the world from their view is wonderful. Everything is new to them! There are days when it is hard, I can't lie about that, but even after a stessful day and constant correcting, when they come up to you and hug you and tell you how much they love you, you heart melts. I think that people that don't have that constant contact with their kids, miss so much. I see parts of my personallity and my husbands personallity in him and not a stranger. I have been there to see everything, all small steps and big steps. My husband is jealous of me, seeing he only got to see the changes after they happened and not during. He would come home from work and see he was crawling, walking, saying new words . . . while I was there helping him crawl, walk and talk.
I miss working, but wouldn't have traded the time I get with my son, for anything, no matter the money, no matter the hours, no matter the perks.

I do not plan to be a stay at home mother; especially if it is going to cause a financial strain. I don't think you will miss out on many of those "priceless" or "precious" moments, like people claim. One does not have to spend every waking moment with their child to experience these. Anyways, I would never want to put all that pressure on my husband to be the sole "bread winner", especially when I am fully capable of going to work as well. Now if I had a job where I had to work ridiculous hours, and the money and benefits were wack as hell, I may CONSIDER becoming a stay at home mom. However, I would more than likely end up finding a new and better job.

It's hard these days! I just had my daughter two months ago and she was also premature, I was on bed rest nearly my whole pregnancy, so work is starting to sound really liberating, but in all reality I could not leave her, it would be way too hard. My other daughter is 9 years old and I stayed home with her for three years, and I loved every moment of it! Yes we are definitely sacrificing a lot of materialistic things to manage, and some days I don't know how we do it, or are going to make it month to month.At the same time I would basically be working to put my child in any descent type of care, so I'd rather reep the benefits of dirty diapers and those sweet moments that you can't put a price on!!! But I also really admire working mothers because for some it's not a choice!, and for others it's the reality we live in two income families are a lot easier than one!!