TTC After M/C

I just started ttc this week. I had a miscarriage at almost five months. That was almost seven months ago. I'm still scared and nervous but I have a friend who had a miscarriage at around the same time of her pregnancy as me and she just delivered a perfectly healthy little girl...today. So, that has helped.
I've found that most people don't relate. I don't think that you really can unless you have gone through it. It's something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, but, most people really don't understand the pain a woman goes through. I know I'll carry it with me forever.

With my first pregnancy, I had a m/c at 8 wks in 4/08 (even after seeing the heartbeat). I waited the 3 cyles (as my dr recomended), and got pregnant right away. I found out at 8 wks that I had a subchorionic hemmorrage, but was told that many people maintain a healthy pregnancy. But I had another m/c just before 12 wks in 9/08. Even though I could feel that something was wrong by the 9th wk of pregnancy, it was still a devastating experience.

Since then I have seen an infertility dr and geneticist. All tests came back normal except I have a heterozygous MTHFR mutation. The frustrating part is 30-40% of the population has this mutation and there are several studies that show conflicting results. Some say that it could have an effect on blood clotting (as my infertility dr agrees), and others say it has no affect on blood clotting because it is a hetero not homozygous mutation (as my geneticist agrees).

So, I have a prescription to take a low dose of Heparin once I start TTC again, but I don't think I will use it. I also have a script to take progesterone supp. once I start TTC.

It has taken several months to regain some normalcy, psychologically and physically. My best friend had a m/c, and I was able to lean on her, but it was hard b/c we got pregnant at the same time (my first time)so she was pregnant when I lost both. I could talk to her, but I didn't want to bring her down or scare her.

It was hard to talk to my husband b/c I couldn't bear to make him sad. So I just started talking to friends and family, and found out that several people have shared in this tragedy. Sharing my experience has really helped heal my soul.

I am in nursing school, so I have delayed our 3rd time trying until this summer. I am hoping for lucky #3, as it will be our 3rd time trying and our 3rd year anniversary.

I wish the best to the others that have had to suffer this emotional/physical tragedy and pray that you find a way to heal your soul.

I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. I was 41 at the time with a 12yo daughter. I was not thrilled to be pg at this point in life. I then had a miscarriage. I was devastated. I didn't realize how much I wanted it until it was gone. I didn't even have time to tell daddy. I got pg again 13 months later and couldn't stop smiling. Still waited to tell daddy b/c he wasn't keen on having #10 of his own. Everything was going great, all the symptoms, sore boobs, tired etc. I really thought this one was going to stick. Went to first ultrasound at 12 weeks and no heart beat. Blood test revealed dropping hormone levels. Then the agonizing wait for my body to realize it was over. The worst time of my life. I never want to get pg again.

i i had miscarriage at the biginning of feb 2009 i have not been on any contraception since it happened as me and my partner really want another child. My advice is really talk to your partner or hubby about what you really want and take 1 step at a time. Remember it happened for a reason and it wasn't your fault! hope this is helpful as never been on anything like this before.