Conception Frustrations II?

I'm new and frankly I could use someone to talk to... even if its this darn computer. Why is trying to have a baby so hard? I'm trying so hard to not think about this to just let it be and just wait for whatever comes and accept it if I get my period at the end of the month so I don't end up in the bathroom crying like every other time before but I can't help getting my hopes up. I can't help feeling wishful when I know in the end it just makes things hurt even worse. Anyone out there have any advice for keeping sane during these times? I could really use some!

I guess i need to vent more than anything, here i am on cycle day 46, my cycle was meant to start on the 31st on adverage according to mymonthlycycles my cycle is 38 days.. so yep im late....the weeks before i had cramps from the 21st that have only just stopped...so i was all excited thinking this month is it!!! but no 2 BFN's the 2nd one this morning...i didnt want to tell my partner as we have been trying to do this for sometime now but i did and was heart broken at the disapointment in his eyes even though he smiled and said its ok...i have reached the point of giving up or at least taking a break i prayed so hard this month for it to happen and as it hasn't i just feel fed up and ready to let go....i told my partner that we need to at least take a break because i dont think that i can do this anymore...i admire many of the women on here who keep trying month after month...i dont know how you do it and wish you all well....i havent cried as i think im all cried out im just sad now and thinking about how to move on...i told my bf i think im going to learn how to knit to take my mind off of it lol so any baby booties or winter hats needed feel free to let me know lol ...seriously i wish i felt differently and any advice to assist in reigniting the hope and faith needed to continue would be much appreciated.. in the meantime i will wait for af to show (boooooo) but much blessings and baby dust, luck and all the other stuff that may help you all reach your dream xxx

It is so frustrating thinking i am pregnant every month, and every month i see a BIG FAT NEGATIVE. But this month i am going to get pregnant if its the last thing i do. Don't care if its a girl/boy/alien. I am going to conceive ;-) over and out.

Hi... I'm new to this site but glad to see I can go somewere to vent. I have had a recent miscarriage in the summer and then AF was getting more and more delayed. Finally I went to my ob/gyn and was told I have PCOS. AF has decreased in days since taking metformin. I think I ovulated on 10/24 after having abd cramps (mittelschmertz) and a horrible headache. I worked through the symptoms and did the deed with my hubby. AF not due for another 5 days. Now I'm way anxious and want to test and wonder if I should even bother. I'm feeling bloated and sensitive to smell. Some nausea but I wonder if its from the gas. Any insight?

my husband and i are completly frustrated with trying to conceive we have been married for eight years, and been trying for four years.. I have had a lot of expensive testing done on me, and every doctor comes back and tells me my test look great.. The only thing is that my cycle is not every month..AF comes every 41 days or even later.. That part is very frustrating when I dont know when I am ovulating.. All my friends are on their 2 and 3 child already, and they don't even try and get pregnant.. Everybody is like quit trying and you will get pregnant.. Okay that is the hard part, how can you quit trying when you want to have a baby so much.. We will keep trying until we conceive..

My DH and I have been trying since Feb. '08 (for 32 months now) and have not had any luck whatsoever. My cycles are mostly normal, although I am an elementary school teacher and subject to job stress on occasion, leading to some abnormal length cycles. My cycles have varied rom 29 days to 40 days (with most being about 31-32 days). I have been tested for hormonal imbalances, thyroid problems, PCOS, etc., and have had NOTHING wrong with me. "Just relax!" says the doctor. Hard to do when you're nearly 32 years old and everyone who graduated from high school in the same year is on baby #2, #3, or even #4. I have had a (former) friend who is currently expecting #5 and who gets easily pregnant ask me, "What, you've been trying for two months and you're still not knocked up yet?" (!!!!!!). Since then I have taken her off of my Facebook friend list because all she does is complain about her older babies and brag about the new pregnancy. Likewise, my sister has two kids, and all she does is complain about what is wrong with them--illnesses, asthma, behavior issues, etc., and almost hardly ever brags about any of their accomplishments--ever. Those poor kids are going to be in therapy when they are older because it's clear their parents don't appreciate them. But my DH and I are childless. Never have been pg. Never have I seen the positive pregnancy test. NOTHING. On top of it all, DH is disabled and already has that working against him psychologically--so IF has hit him very hard. We're approved to adopt, and now there are no babies available to adopt. We're taking it very hard and I go through a depression every time AF arrives. At least our parents don't pressure us, but I personally can't stand it when even other women going through IF get pregnant and I don't. :(