TTC - To Say or Say Not?

I hate kids--seriously! I was the youngest child by a LOT and I have never even changed a diaper. Then I went and got married at 19...everyone assumed we were pregnant. We weren't. We just had our 10 year anniversary and no kids. Everyone, even my closest friends, are like, aren't trying? Don't you want kids? Is something wrong with you? And of course, about 2 years ago, we did start trying, and I adamantly refused to tell anyone except my best friend. And everyone just kept prying, kept nagging. The only thing they accomplished was to make me STOP wanting to have a baby! Of course, yesterday I just found out that I am pregnant...super conflicted about it! I am now scared to tell our families! Just the thought of them gushing over me, giving me advice turns my stomach. I am more than some 1950s baby machine!

We're on cycle 1 of TTC.

I've already told a few friends we're trying. They've been expecting it for ages. Some have been really supportive, others are like "Ooh, don't tell anyone until you fall and you're AT LEAST past the 1st trimester."

That's so frustrating!

It's not like I wanna tell the whole world, but it's a big step for me and my partner so I do wanna tell some people and I want them to be pleased.

If we do conceive I know there are risks but I still want to be able to talk about the WHOLE process.

My partner is not the type to want to talk about things until they're actually happening so I do feel I need to talk things through with friends, especially since this is our first try so it's a really big deal even though I'm not expecting 1st time success.

The waiting is horrible! Soonest I'll know is in 2 days time, (If AF visits) but it could be another week as my cycle is irregular. Hoping it will be easier to wait next month!

My hubby and I recently married in July, but we've been together since we were 14 (off and on of course!). Now we're both 24 and ready to start a family. At this point, I wouldn't dare tell a soul, not even my closest friends or family. I love that we're TTC now, because no one is expecting it, so I'm not experiencing any of those horrible questions like "When's the baby due?" "You're next, right" etc. I could really care less about anyone else's input about us TTC. I believe this time is very personal, and should be kept between us. It's fun and sacred to have our own little secret!. Now I'm on month one, and I'm trying not to obsess, but it's hard with all of the tricks, BBT, prenatals, CM, and the guessing game of ovulation.

I wish all of you the best of luck!

We haven't officially told many people that we are TTC but I think our immediate families and a handful of close friends know or assume b.c of our M/c in April..

It's hard having even a few people knowing b/c month after month now we keep getting BFN and everyone thought we would get pregnant right away again b/c of the m/c...(apparently some think u are more fertile right after)

Some times I wish no one knew, but other times it's nice because I can talk to them. it took my best friend almost 2 years to concieve and when she finally did, it was b/c she was on clomid but she understands the frustrations!.


If i never see a another HPT with a BFN it will be too soon. there are no more in my house, and i refuse to buy anymore until I am either a week late, or throwing up! lol

I'm so wanting to tell my family about my TTC for baby #2 plans, but I have a brother with two young children (under the age of 4) and they're good, but not such attentive parents, and they're under a lot of financial strain right now; which I think reflects poorly with my mother. She's really negative when it comes to us starting families and is full of advice...I'm sure she means well, but it comes off as though she thinks we don't know what we're doing, or that we are incapable of raising our children, or making it like she did (she was a single parent of 4)...I cut her a lot of slack because she did it on her own, and I know that everything she says is from a place of love and support, I'm just not sure she knows how to give that support without being harsh and brash. Every time I say something about us having another child she lets out this loud sigh and says something like "you guys and these children, can't you just wait?" And I'm like I'm married, almost 27, my husband is 37 and we want to have my children now...we don't rely on anyone for financial help, and we have our own place and my husband makes decent money. I feel like that should be my choice without having it questioned or commented upon, because it's something that we are overjoyed about...but it's a damper, and it hurts my feelings.

Although my partner and i have only just started to TTC,(Round 1 unsuccessful) I do have children from my previous marriage that were the result of a course of clomid. I/we have decided to say nothing on the front to anyone about TTC as a result of this. Although it is a happy time for us both, my age and previous complications put a little dampener on things and the last thing i want is to be explaining that no i have not managed to conceive this time and feeling a complete failure.