You, TTC, and Your Partner

Trying for another... I told myself I wasn't going to get caught up in it. I wasn't going to POAS early. This morning (AF due tomorrow) got a BFP, this afternoon spotting and a BFN. *sigh* Am I? I try so hard to see reality and not say... oh well, it was a light BFP with first morning urine... so that's why this afternoon it's negative, and well the spotting well that's just implantation bleeding. Reality, I'm crampy and a migraine is settling in just like it always does about this time in my cycle... AF will start tomorrow. I tried to not get caught up, I just ended up sad and hurt. No matter where each one of us are at in our lives whether we are trying for a first, second or even third its a struggle. Something so simple and so beautiful becomes so complicated and so ugly. Lots and lots of baby dust to all of you! Thank you for letting me vent.

Hi,
It's only my 2nd time TTC, but for a while now, many years, actually for as long as I can remember I've had a pretty low sex drive. I can only remember one time in my life where this was not the case, which was around age 20. Now, I'm 32 and I'm just not feeling it. It's not my husband. The only thing that can help me is having a drink, which I hate to do because I know it increases your acid levels and effects CM negatively. So I just did a google search on this and found that an herb called Maca is supposed to help with this. Has anyone tried this, does it work? Thanks so much

Though he tries, it doesn't work, his solution is having more sex, I don't test every month, but whenever i do and it's BFN he knows i get depressed. He gets curious about the mechanics (of ovulation and periods) but not really TTC talk, I avoided going to the dr. the first three years, but now that i'm on medications (for hypothyroidism and insulin resistence due to PCOS, also taken Provera recently) he is getting more frustated that it's not happening because (to him, in theory) the meds should "fix" us not having a baby, unfournately things aren't that simple and it frustates him, also seeing how many people we know having kids (most of the time not trying) is also frustating him, though he doesn't show it much. The frustation hit me (about 9 months TTC) sooner then it did him so i'm trying to help him deal.

How many women are having to deal with a husband who is away for work?

well my husband and i got his sprem test results back and they are not good ..he has low sprem count ..mis shaped ..low motility ...his morphology was 1% ..and ph factor so everything that he could have wrong was wrong ...it was all so bad that my dr is sending him for another test to make sure the lab didnt make a mistake ...

we are both so sad ..stressed and at this point dont know what to think ..among the many thougths that ran thru my head was it looks like if we want kids were going to have to do insemination or invetro ...our hearts feel sooo sad ..has anyone out there had any of these issues or even just some experience in the matter ..?

Hmmm.... Very personal this but I would like to know if anyone else has been thru or is going thru this.

My partner & I have been 2gether 6 1/2 yrs. We are on 2nd month TTC.

We have a gd sx life but, after 6 1/2 yrs 2gether, we don't BD as much as we used to!

1st cycle of TTC we found it really difficult to BD a lot, as we're just not used to it! 1st cycle we BD x 3 over fertile period but I think the mistake we made was doing it every day - my partner especially was like "what, again?"

Now on cycle 2 we're both entering a busy period workwise & when I have my fertile time we're both prob gonna be exhausted. Not so bad for me, but for my partner it's obviously creates physical difficulties :0(

Don't wanna get too disheartened but feel it'll never happen if we can't do it every other day during fertile period :0(

I reckon the best we'll be able to manage is days 12, 14 & 16. I ovulate day 15/16.

Given that we may only get 1 shot this month (if my partner's just too worn out!) which day would other ladies TTC aim for???!!!

Any help much appreciated!

EJTTC