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SAHM or Working Mom?

Did you (or will you) stop working and be a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM)? Why or why not? Any regrets in your decision, like do you find yourself wanting to go back to work, or in the middle of a meeting do you wish you were home instead? What would you tell other mom-to-bes who are considering being a SAHM - do it or not?

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Posted by: jocschr on May 2, 2011
SAHM or Working Mom?

Staying home, creating home

I always knew that I would want to stay home with my children. I also loved the college educational experience and was gifted in enough areas that I could have made myself a nice career. At some point I wondered if I could have a stay at home husband. But when the time came there was really no choice. I would NEVER give my children anything other than breast milk and my husband, amazing as he is, never did grow breasts. At first, I felt like I had to justify staying home to people who would ask about my life.

Now, three kids deep into life I would never never leave my children to work. My husband supports us well. We don't buy fancy electronics and I shop thrift stores. We don't take vacations or have more than one car payment and I cook almost all of our meals. But while other people may pull in two incomes and live 'easier' there aren't happier people anywhere. My children have a strong foundation with parents who they trust and who they can see taking up their own responsibilities for the family with care and pride.

Personally I think that putting children in daycare is a terrible thing that should only happen when there is no other choice for the parents. While kids need the love and support of a community of care givers they primary source for learning and love should always be found at home. Their perspectives on life, their joys and their sorrows, their milestones and their learning should be nurtured by a home maker. After all if there isn't a home maker making a home what it should be than what is it? My children know my job is my life and it is difficult and joyous and they know I'm committed to them and their father.

And I know I'm doing what God called mothers to do. I'm creating a life, a home, a family, and a marriage that serve to protect and grow and create love for my husband and our children.

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Posted by: kelgyrrl on Apr 5, 2011
SAHM or Working Mom?

Lessons on pride, independence & responsibility

I'm a working mom, always have been. Fortunately, as a healthcare provider, I have to done weekends, nights, 12 hr days, etc etc. Right now, due to finances and my being the breadwinner, I am working 2 jobs and my husband works a m-f day job. He's been running the show at home, while I bring in the money to live on for the most part. Neither one of us could get away with not working at present, as much as that sucks. I love what I do and I'm good at it. I hate missing things with my kids, but I love that I'm teaching them responsibility and independence. I always want to be with them more, but I feel like it takes a village - they need other perspectives and to learn things from people other than me and their father.

I admire and envy SAHM, but I hope they admire and envy me. I am educated and paid well and feel as though I make a difference in people's lives. I am so incredibly proud of my children and I am sad to miss things, but I would be sad if I wasn't reaching my potential. Kids are amazing and resilient and learn so much from so many. I don't think I've damaged the goods any by making them more adaptale.

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Posted by: twinboysmommy on Jan 23, 2011
SAHM or Working Mom?

SAHM of twin boys!

I am a stay at home mom of twin boys. My husband and I came to this conclusion for a number of reasons. We had always agreed that I would stay home with them or any child we had for at least a year, but never discussed much after that until they were born.

I was determined to go to school and get a job after my degree. I'm 27 now, but spent 6 years active duty military and never got my degree in, although I do have college credits. The intent was that I would be able to do a mother's day out program and go to school part time. However, the cost of all that with two was not affordable. We ultimately decided I would stay home after much resistance from me when we joined a church and I started listening to what God and my husband was trying to tell me all along. My calling is to take care of my wonderful boys. I'm not sure if that's what my spiritual calling is (mercy), but I do know that nothing else I wrap my mind around sticks. Being a mom is the best job I could ever have! I love to take care of my boys, even if they don't need me to be right there playing with them (they pretty much entertain themselves while I get housework out of the way). I truly believe that at this point in my life, and while I still want more children that God wants me to be the caretaker of this household. I want to be there for their every moment and to take care of my husband as I feel that is what God is leading me to.

I may be a bit crazy sometimes and need a break others, but I just breath in and realize that this truly is what God wants me to do and I really do love every crazy second of it!

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Posted by: trenee77 on Jun 17, 2010
SAHM or Working Mom?

Military Wife

'Nuff said! Actually we were still living in a bigger city because of my job. After I was laid off, we moved closer to base but the town really doesn't have much to offer for employment. So I think I'm kinda settling in to this whole SAHM thing, though our kid is in grade school. It's kinda nice to be able to pick her up after school and this is probably the first actual summer that we really get to spend time together. When deployment comes, staying home will really be helpful. I've been looking into career options from home like medical transcription and considering that route to bring in extra money.

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Posted by: emmasmomma on Mar 30, 2010
SAHM or Working Mom?

I'm a SAHM

I'm a SAHM to my almost 5 month-old daughter. Prior to having her I was a teacher. My husband and I can afford for me to stay home with her (praise the Lord), so I do. I couldn't imagine going to work as a teacher every day to nurture and teach other people's children while putting my own in a daycare knowing full-well that it's possible for me to stay home with her and nurture and teach her instead. We are planning on having at least 1 or 2 more kids (Lord willing, of course), and due to our religious convictions, my husband and I are planning for me to home school them. It was hard giving up my career. Getting my master's degree in education wasn't cheap and there have been challenges and raised eyebrows (from people who think I should still be working outside the home), but Emma is worth it.

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Posted by: Purple02r6 on Feb 20, 2010
SAHM or Working Mom?

Military mom

I dont have much of a choice. I stayed at home till my girl was 10 months, my boy was 15 months. Im active duty military now and have to go back to work after we have one. Im not sure how I feel about it just yet and taking a leave is not an option since Im am the bread winner for our family.

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