People tell you that you are not actively trying.

I have been ttc for over 14 years. I get asked the question all of the time since I am 34 years old that I should be actively trying to have a kid and what am I waiting on. In my mind I think "whoa I guess going to fertility doctors for the last 10 years, constantly tracking, being stuck with needles isn't actively trying?!" Most people do not think that there are some out there that just have problems conceiving. I had 4 miscarrages and carried only one for two months before loosing it. It does get to me especially when young kids who are on bc not even trying and they get pregnant so easy and they do not think of what type of mental trama they are doing to us when they flaunt it around like it is so easy to have a kid. I have got to the point that I ignore it but it really does hurt at times. I think people should be more sensitive to others and stop asking the question "When are you going to have a kid?" over and over if they don't know you that well to know that you are ttc and having problems. I have never been on bc in my life but the doctors tell me that everything is fine I shouldn't have any problems so mine is an unexplained infertility problem.