Standing on your head and grocery store cashiers

We were "trying but not trying" for over a year, slowly, near the end of that we began to admit to friends and family that we were "trying" to get pregnant. I think it took us that long to admit it to ourselves. I guess I never thought I would have to "try" hard. Now, after about 16 months, our families know and we are telling friends. For me especially, it has grown just to hard to pretend everything is okay when some days it's not.

When we first talked about it with one "helpful" older friend who herself got pregnant twice by accident while on birth control, she told me several times about how her friend stood on her head after and that it worked to get her pregnant. The first time she told me I took it in stride, the second time I really didn't want to hear it. The third... I just got quiet and fumed. My husband heard the fourth time she said it and he shut her down (he knows that as the months drag on, I just can't hear this kind of advice).

My other "favorite" stories about to say or not to say has to do with cashiers in grocery and drug stores. The first time I bought a pregnancy test a cashier (who could have been about my Mom's age) wished me good luck when I bought the test. This was during our "trying but not trying" phase. I think she meant well, but I felt a bit irritated by her doing that. How was she to know that I would be happy about the baby. Likewise, just last month, while buying prenatal vitamins, a younger cashier congratulated me on expecting. Blushing, as the rest of the people in the line heard me say that I'm not and I tried to explain to this woman that my doctor had said you should take the vitamins even before you get pregnant. This (of course) put her on track to talk about whether or not she wants kids. All I wanted to do was get out of there and end this conversation.