No good answer ...

My husband and I got married and decided that we wanted to wait a couple years to have children. Both families and all of our friends would constantly ask us "When are you having a baby?". If we told them that we were trying to become more financially stable before we had a child, we were told - "If you're worried about money, you'll never be ready for kids". It use to really get under our skin.
We decided that we were ready, and starting TTC in May 2006. We didn't tell anyone that we were trying for a while. About 8 months after we started trying, My mother asked us when we were going to start trying. My husband told her that we had been trying for a while - and that he was worried something might be wrong. We decided at that point to let folks know that we were trying. Here we are now - 2 years later and still no baby. We started seeing a reproductive endocrologist, and now we get all the infertility questions. Some folks trying to be helpful tell me story about the lady who "relaxed" and had a baby. Others ask questions of a more personal nature.
Probably the worst I've felt was at my Grandmothers funeral. All of her friends, and several people whom I havn't seen in several years came to pay their respects. While it was nice to see them- the pain of losing my grandmother was made worse that night by all the awkward questions I had to answer from these people. "How Many Children do you have now?","Don't you want kids?", "You better get started, you're not staying young forever." - and the comment that hurt the worst "So your grandmother didn't have any great-grandchildren?".
I don't know if it's better to tell or not to tell ... When they found out that we were having problems conceiving - alot of the questions stopped ...but those that we do get - are much more personal. I don't think there is a good answer honestly. I'm thankful for those who know how hard we're trying- and offer a sympatheic ear when we need it.