Constant reminder of failure

I am 27 and my DH is 38. We have not officially started TTC yet but we having been planning to start this year after I finished law school. We have been together about 8 years and married almost 2. Now I have finished and I am preparing for the bar. I have purposely not told anyone that we are or are planning to TTC. We have heard the questions "so when am i gonna be a grandma". We are private people and we feel like we shouldn't tell anyone until we are at least 3 months along.

Although we haven't officially started, we have reached a point where we feel like if it happens sooner, it happens. Now, its all I can think about. I get worred and scared sometimes when I hear or read stories of women my age or younger having difficulty conceiving or miscarrying. I have always charted my cycle, but now I am more conscious of those fertile days than before. Now, I am hoping for the early surprise.

But, back to the point, I think telling anyone early can create a situation of pain. Having everyone ask whether or not your pregnant every month can be a constant reminder of the fact that your having trouble. I know it would be for me. I'm disappointed now and haven't even started yet but I fell as though somehow I am less of a woman for not producing children. I don't think any woman should have that on their mind.