SAHM or Working Mom?
Did you (or will you) stop working and be a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM)? Why or why not? Any regrets in your decision, like do you find yourself wanting to go back to work, or in the middle of a meeting do you wish you were home instead? What would you tell other mom-to-bes who are considering being a SAHM - do it or not?

Feeling Judged

Posted by: andella on Tue Oct 6, 2009

Now I know why those of us who work sometimes feel as though we are being judged by SAHMs. I'd love to be able to stay at home with my child, but I'd also love to be able to help put a roof over his head. It's not as though I am working to buy expensive "toys" or have fancy clothes or go on vacations. I'm working to be able to put food on the table. My husband has a disablility, and the option will NEVER be for him to be the breadwinner.

I say if you can do it, and want to do it, go for it! But, don't judge those of us who are working. I know that I am not a bad parent and that my son is very lucky to have a close relationship with both me and his father. I often feel like mothers who stay at home with their children think they are better mothers than those like me - even though I know they would never admit it, they imply it in everything they say. It's all about what's doing best for YOUR family. Even when my son has had to go to daycare, I know that I am not letting strangers raise him and I know that I have not abandoned him.

I'd love to stay at home with my boy, but I'd like for him to have a home to live in!

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