TTC - To Say or Say Not?

I made the huge mistake of telling people we were trying when it seemed like everyone around us was getting pregnant at the drop of the hat. This seemed to open up peoples willingness to them assume they could speak of other things in relation to my fertility. As in, we have been trying for 2 years now with no results, at one point I had an ovarian cyst. Just one, and a co-worker I hardly know got wind of it from one of the 2 people I told and was telling EVERYONE in the office, Oh she's full of cysts, and she's infertile, I guess they'll have to adopt. She's a huge gossip. I just emailed her and said I had 1 cyst, not multiple cysts and no I am not infertile. I have then had to just tell people we decided to wait on having kids because it became an almost daily, when are you guys going to have kids, when are you going to get pregnant. Aren't you ready? I would suggest not telling ANYONE unless you are close to them, because the added pressure if you don't get pregnant right away is murder.

I tell people "We aren't really TRYING, but we aren't NOT trying either." which confuses them, and they change the subject with something like "Oh... So I was at Target yesterday with..." and I just have to smile.

We've decided not to tell any family....but I have told a few people that we are not "preventing it". They would drive me nuts if they knew! They (inlaws) have driven me crazy with the constant when are you having a baby question....can't they see I am more than a uterus??!!??

I don't mind if people ask if we are trying...my asnwer...kinda. We're not really trying but we aren't preventing it either. I never thought i'd not want a period so badly, i've been off the pill since Oct....earlier this month, when my period was late, we thought maybe this was the month, but then it came :(... B4 when we were def. not trying, we had a vacation planned for Dec. and just told everyone, once we go on vacation...that quieted some for awhile....

i've been married 6 months and i know a large part of both of our families was expecting a baby exactly 9 months after the wedding. so far we have nothing, hubby used to tell his friends if he thought i was preg for that month, but it got awkward so we just stopped talking about it. if people ask if we want kids we tell them yes, and "we're working on it" but now his grandparents who were polite and only mentioned it once helped us think up the babyfund. tell everybody that once the "babyfund" reached a certain amount then you will have kids. either they stop arguing or donate to the babyfund. no downside.

When my hubby, then boyfriend, found out we were pregnant we got all kinds of reactions. Some good, some mixed, and some not so great. We now have a 21 month old and are ttc. We told some people...the ones that had the good reactions to the last pregnancy. But we are keeping it hush hush to the others. Everybody who knows we are ttc are so excited and can't wait to hear the good news that another little one is on the way. Now all that needs to happen is for there to actually be a little one on the way!