TTC - To Say or Say Not?

my husband and i celebrated our 1st year anniversary in july. we have been ttc for four months now with no luck so far. i didnt realise how upset all this would make me feel. i have two very close friends who i told we were tcc and i also told my mom. although they have been nothing but supportive, i wish i hadnt opened my mouth, i just find it so hard when af arrives and then when i have to say it out load four times it just makes it harder. my brother and his girlfriend have just announced that they are 12 weeks pregnant which felt like a knife to the heart. im so happy for them and cant wait to be an aunty again but stupidly i thought i would be the next one to announce a new arrival. im on the 1ww at the moment af due on the 10th of august so figers crossed!!! :) baby dust to you all xxx

Our friends generally know we're at the "wanting kids" stage, but only our two closest definitely know we're finally TRYING. Other than that, I've told my mom. So far, only my mom inquires. "Any news on the pregnancy front?" And she leaves it alone when I tell her no, but she'll be one of the first to know when there's something to know. But then, I think she's a tiny bit freaked out by the idea of me getting pregnant and having kids!

It seems about right to me. It's not really a topic I want to discuss much. I already dread the stage when EVERYONE offers you pregnancy advice, followed by EVERYONE offering feeding advice, followed by EVERYONE offering parenting advice... I'm going to be struggleing to smile and hold my tongue a LOT in next few years! :)

i only told my (now ex) best friend and my mom when we started to TTC... everyone else just assumed we were gonna have kids early because we got married really young, my hubby is in the military and both my sister in laws go pregnant BEFORE they were married... the prying questions are getting so painful! we've been TTC for about 7 months and im almost getting fed up with this waiting/disappointment game :( the people that DO know we're TTC have actually kept their mouths shut. havent told anyone else and dont ask many questions... if only ALL of them were like that....

I'm 23 my hubby's 25 we feel like time is running out. I have PCOS and it's not frustraighting it's depressing in all! Well we've been TTC since we got married in 04. I joined a clinical trial for pcos and pregnancy. I am in my first round of the meds (clomid or letrozole). It's a blind trial but that only makes it worse. I completed the meds and got my ultrasound positive OV high progesterone levels 4.^ but it's too early for a test, the urine test was negative but they said it's too early

But back on topic ! My family knows that were ttc but they feel we should wait so I try to explain my problem, but mistake, everyone is having babies around me. I feel so alone and he feels left out! Everyone is asking us all the time when are we going to have kids and it hurts to keep saying "when the good Lord splits me". they laugh but I die just a little bit more every time. I have always wanted kids. My sister has 2-1 on the way & my brother's on his first!! So that's hard my class keeps asking me and I have no support my hubby says just ignore them but that's easier said by him than for me to do it!! I am losing it just waiting till next Friday to find out my heart hurts but I am trusting God! Do the same !

Baby dust to all! (:;:'*:;':") God bless!!

I am 27 and my DH is 38. We have not officially started TTC yet but we having been planning to start this year after I finished law school. We have been together about 8 years and married almost 2. Now I have finished and I am preparing for the bar. I have purposely not told anyone that we are or are planning to TTC. We have heard the questions "so when am i gonna be a grandma". We are private people and we feel like we shouldn't tell anyone until we are at least 3 months along.

Although we haven't officially started, we have reached a point where we feel like if it happens sooner, it happens. Now, its all I can think about. I get worred and scared sometimes when I hear or read stories of women my age or younger having difficulty conceiving or miscarrying. I have always charted my cycle, but now I am more conscious of those fertile days than before. Now, I am hoping for the early surprise.

But, back to the point, I think telling anyone early can create a situation of pain. Having everyone ask whether or not your pregnant every month can be a constant reminder of the fact that your having trouble. I know it would be for me. I'm disappointed now and haven't even started yet but I fell as though somehow I am less of a woman for not producing children. I don't think any woman should have that on their mind.

I've decided to not tell a soul for various reasons. It'll spread like wild fire. This is a private period for myself and my DH. We don't need to get bogged down with other people sharing TTC stories and how horrible their pregnancies and deliveries were. I work with women and most of them have children. I'm a minority - I'm married, not terribly young, but have no children. I've wanted to share it with someone - a family member perhaps, but I'm still a little apprehensive. Every month it'll be "pregnant yet?" I simply don't wish to deal with that.