Conception Frustrations?

I had been TTC for a year when I decided to just "stop" trying. I wasnt preventing pregnancy but wasn't trying either. I was shocked when I had missed my period. I took a test and found that I was pregnant... about 6 weeks along. I was so excited and relieved. One night I ended up in the hospital with side pains. That is when I learned I had an ectopic pregnancy. My doctor told me I had to wait 3 months after the 2 month long series of shots and blood tests ( 3 days a week)to try again. It has now been 8 months of TTC AGAIN and still nothing. I am getting very frustrated and scared. All I think about it not being able to have kids without IVF. My boyfriend is VERY supportive, but already has one child from a previous relationship. Sometimes it seems like he throws it in my face how easy it was for his ex to conceive. That is the LAST thing I want to hear at this point. I know he doesnt do it to make me mad or jealous, but it does. I am still going to continue to try and hopefully see 2 lines instead of one next month. Good luck to all!

I can really, really relate to semperfilove, and I 'm glad so to know that I am not alone.

My fiance and I have been trying to conceive for months now and what is so strange is that in the past, it has never been this difficult and now, when I am really ready with the most supportive and loving partner by my side.. It just doesnt or wont happen!

What makes it worse is when everyone says "just relax,if your tense it just wont happen" or "when the time is right - you'll conceive" -arrgghh!! I dont think anyone can really understand how frustating it can be - unless they have been down this road of anticipation every single month! I chart my cycles, my LH levels,my breasts, my cervical mucus - I take supplements, I eat so-called baby making foods (seeds, fruits,cereals, fish, yogarts)-gave up smoking months ago..and nothing!

I've begun to hate examining my self and my body as insecurities about my body and fertility follow and sometimes I get so depressed. Its good to let it out with other people, because I feel so guilty about breaking down to my partner every month!

So thank you for sharing your experience -and good luck with your baby plans!

Lots of Love

xxx

So me and my fiance have been TTC and we want it to happen before he deploys.....last night I had my breakdown of "I want youto come home to a baby!!! it is what you want and I want that for you!!!" Its frustrating because when i was with my ex husband we would get pregs trying not to....now when I want this more than anything it doesnt happen.....I dont know why things work out that way. Whats even more aggrivating is that we have very limited time to make this happen. He told me it will happen even if we have to see a specialist b4 he leaves. I am crossing my fingers.....I have 6 days til me expected monthly annoyance. hopefully it is on vaca for the next 9 months...would be nice.

TTC is just taking my sanity!!!! Me and my DH have been TTC for two years now. It is hard enough to go through this, and to have MY WONDERFUL mother-in-law, MY DADS WIFE(no she is NOT my mother or step we don't get along she just puts on a show.. that is a WHOLE OTHER POST...lol) to ask what seems like everyday "so any news yet". I would just like to move out of state to conceive. At least that way I could just not get a phone...lol
Other than that we have been seeing a FS since aug 07. He has me on Femara. first round was 5mg second round was 7.5mg. I don't O and I have CRAZY AFs. Anyway I just feel like my head is going to EXPLODE.
Seems like I can not think of anything else. Everything reminds me that I have TTC problems. Its like everyone of my closest friends and sister have had a baby since we started this. They were not even trying is the worst part. Don't get me wrong I LOVE my family and my neice and nephews are the best ever. My sis even says she had my daughter...she acts just like me....scary. I am just tired I think. My DH just tells me not to let it bother me. I try but everytime it is time for AF to visit. I just can't help to think about the past couple of years and all of the let downs we have had. Sorry to just ramble on and on. It really helped though. I guess its just good to get it out. I just don't do it at the right time. Well I will stop now

Thanks though ;)

My DH and I have been TTCing for 16 months now. Im really fed up as I dont know what to do. It has become a really big issue for us as we have taken time away from each other to sort things out. We have almost been apart from each other for a month now and I am due to go back hom quite soon. The pressure TTC has put a very bid strain on us and our marriage tremendously. I know if it is meant for us to have a baby we will. We both really want to have a baby. We have been together 11 yrs and married almost 2yrs. No babies yet. I was on birth control for about 8 yrs.

For the last 7 months I have had mid cycle spotting leading all the way to AF. Sometimes the spotting can be 2 weeks long before AF shows. I have now been referred to a fertility specialist and gynecologist. I guess this does give me some hope but I just dont have any hope at all anymore. I try to stay away from baby programs or from people I see who are pregnant and/or having smal infants because it hurts to much. I think this has lead to depression on my part. Have been treated in the past for it but when you are trying to get pregnant anti-depressants aren't good for babies. I guess all I can do is keep praying that we will have our own little bundle of joy and try to relax until we have our doc's appt.

HI everyone! My husband and I have been trying to conceive our first child for approx. two years now. We have been really lucky to be working with a fantastic OBGYN for the past few months. Our bump in the road is due to my husband having an extremely low sperm count (3% mobile). We have been refered to a male fertility specialist (feb 14) to begin the steps towards "Sperm washing"....Has anyone experienced this procedure before? If so any insight would be greatly appreciated.

To comment on other views that I have read on this post - I would have to agree if I continue to hear..."Just relax...you have lots of time.." I am going to lose it!!!(I think it frustrates me more when it comes from others that already have children).