You, TTC, and Your Partner
Your Trying to Conceive partner is, of course, there physically. Is he also emotionally
supportive, especially if you get a BFN when you hoped this would be the month? Is he open to on-going TTC related talk when you want/need it?
Posted by:
obe
on Mar 25, 2009
You, TTC, and Your Partner
Frustrated TTC
At the moment im feeling really down. TTC for a year after my partner had a reversal which we were told had been sucessful, but still no joy.
My partners sister has confirmed she is pregnant and its breaking my heart. Trying to be happy for their good news but im finding it really hard to cope! On top of which imworking in an office where everyone seems to be pregnant so I have to listen to baby talk all day and I just cant get away from it.
How do I get through this??
Friends tell me to stay positive and 'these things take time' but I just feel like im on my own in this and nobody can understand how I feel. Dont get me wrong, my partner is great and he wants a baby as much as I do.
Does anyone have any advice?
Posted by:
frstbabyat30
on Feb 23, 2009
You, TTC, and Your Partner
Best friend support?!?!
My husband is great when I need to talk about the frustrations of not getting a positive result. It is just my best friend. They tried for years and finally had to do IVF. I am happy for them, they finally got what they want, but now it is all she wants to talk about how she is having a baby. The one other person I would love to talk about with this can't even be supportive even though she has been through it all. I know it is bad to feel this way, and I should be happy for her... I just feel sometimes she is rubbing it in my face. Is it wrong?
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Posted by:
abeaty
on Jan 29, 2009
You, TTC, and Your Partner
I don't know what he wants...!
Im getting so frustrated with my husband! He told me for a long time that he didn't think we should try to have kids for a while even though he knew that I really wanted to. I had been in and out of hospitals and doctors offices before we got married and was eventually diagnosed with Endo and PID. My obgyn tells me that there is a chance I may not be able to conceive, that is the news that makes your maternal clock tick louder and louder. He still didn't think we should try too hard, So for about 2 years we stopped using protection and said if it happens it happens, but there was no big effort put into TTC. We finally moved to a new city and both of us have great jobs that we love! Then he tells me he thinks it's a good time to try! So after all the reading and charting I've done, I pinpoint the perfect time for TTC and he says he wants to finally try to make this happen. So I remind him that we have to do this the right way, as in we need to do the baby dance on the days im most fertile! I haven't said much to him about it other than that part, and he freaks out and pushes me out emotionally! He says that he thinks I'm baby crazy, but I haven't said much about it at all! I don't think Im baby crazy, i just want him to know that it is really important to plan it out and do this the right way, especially if our chances are already reduced!
He just keeps getting my hopes up that we are going to put the effort into TTC and then he gets all weird! I don't know what to do, its driving me crazy! I don't know if he's getting cold feet about having a baby or if its something to do with our relationship?
Posted by:
tina123
on Jan 25, 2009
You, TTC, and Your Partner
I have changed my point of view
I have been trying to get pregnant with my husband since May 2007. We got pregnant right away but had a miscarriage. Since then I have been putting so much pressure on myself to get pregnant. The other night, I came to the realization that if it happens eventually- that would be so great!! But I've also decided that if it doesn't happen, at least I have a wonderful man to spend the rest of my life with and I can be happy and thankful for that! So no more pressure, I'm good with whatever happens!
Posted by:
gavinzmum
on Jan 23, 2009
You, TTC, and Your Partner
He get's my hopes up... then a BFN!
We are both really wanting another child...BUT as soon as I have anything out of the ordinary happen during my cycle, he says... "It's cuz you're pregnant". Then either AF comes or my test is BFN. It's so disappointing. I told him that he wasn't allowed to EVER say anything like that again cuz it gets my hopes up. I swear... sometimes I think that men just don't think!
Posted by:
ttc_nikka_ttc
on Jan 9, 2009
You, TTC, and Your Partner
*The Luckiest Wife of All Time*
i have been tryin to conceive for 2 years, and yet my husband is still by my side.. and so is my family.. he's always there and wants to know what is going on with me and my body, and if there is anything he can do to help me feel better.. i've had 3 miscarriages and yet he's still very determined to keep trying to have a child.. i dont know what i'd do without him being in my life!! i love him so much, and i feel as if IM the lucky one in this relationship, even tho he tells me no HE IS!! lol.. my mother has been there for me too, she's always encouragin me to never give up, that its gone happen one day.. and when my mother AND husband tells me that, i feel like i can accomplish anything!! so, we are planning to try again this month.. please keep me and my family in ur prayers!! thanks