Conception Frustrations?

after 1 year of trying to conceive i was told i had polycystic ovaries, we had a try at fertility tablets which was unsuccesful, so we decided to stop tryin so hard & planned our wedding. on our wedding day i was 3 months pregnant! tragically i went into premature labour at 21 weeks and due to the extreme prematurity of our little girl caty 17/10/08 she didnt make it. this is definately the worst thing my husband and i have ever gone through we wouldnt wish this on anyone. to make things a little worse my sister gave birth to my nephew 6 days after we lost our daughter, my best friend gave birth 4 weeks after. so it really does feel like we r never gonna get there. in the last couple of weeks we have begun to think that caty was sent to show us that we can conceive & that maybe wen the time is right we will conceive again.

good luck to all u couples out there tryin 2 conceive & hope u have good news soon x

My husband (33) and I (31) have been TTC since March 2008. I figured it wouldn't be too difficult... you just stop using birth control and that's it. It worked that way for my mom, shouldn't it work for me too? I couldn't have been more hopelessly wrong. I went to the dr in Sept 2008 and was diagnosed with PCOS. This was devastating news. I was already dealing with my sister's pregnancy and several friends were pregnant right around the same time so I felt even worse. One friend got pregnant by accident while on BCP... why was I the only one trying and not getting anywhere?!
So for months, I've been reading books and charting temps, POAS every other day and dying inside during every TWW. It's getting harder and harder to not let people know of our difficulties as I just want them to know what their "harmless" comments are actually doing to me when they say "you're not getting any younger", or "why haven't you started having kids yet?" or "getting pregnant is so easy" - that comes from a couple who had their 3 kids just by looking at each other.
During ovulation and the TWW, I sometimes get so mad at my husband for waiting so long before we got married (13 years together, 2 years married) and starting a family. I get mad at my family and friends for being successful at getting pregnant. And the only one I can be mad at is myself for not finding out about all this fertility stuff earlier. It's hard for me to hang out with most friends now while they are planning Baby #2 or #3 and I still haven't gotten #1 conceived.

My husband, while supportive, doesn't seem to understand this feeling of anxiety and hopelessness that I feel during every cycle. I don't let him know that I cry sometimes because I think that will upset him. I'm on day 13 of the TWW... I'm too scared to test. The BFN eats me up inside. Does any one have any advice or at least sympathy?!

Wishing you all tons of luck and baby dust. May it happen soon for us all.

Just looking to see how others cope with this news? What are you facing? How do you manage hearing the news of a low sperm count? We found out this past week our count is only 1 million with 50% motility.

Hi All,

Me and Husband have been TTC going on 4 years now, my husband and I were tested and he is perfectly 100% healthy, where as I on the other hand have PCOS we are doing the Clomid and have tried IUI, but since it's an expensive story it is not a continous thing. I am back on Clomid again, and am hoping and praying that over the next few months something positive happens. For all those out there looking at other people having beautiful babies and are frustrated because you badly want one, I know how you feel. But the best thing to do is keep trying and stay motivated, because one day it will happen. So please dont let the frustration get the better of you.

Hi to other frustrated TTC women! I'm 30, my DH is 29. We've been married for over 1 1/2 years now, TTC for 13 cycles' length (since February 2008). So far, no luck. I've been tested with basic blood tests--no PCOS, hormonal imbalances, thyroid problems. He hasn't been tested yet, and we're reluctant to do it (due to various circumstances I won't explain at present). My cycles are not regular; they haven't been ever since we started TTC. I used to be regular to the hour; now it fluctuates from 28-39 days. So many other women get pregnant just thinking about babies, but my DH and I want one so badly and can't. We're crushed! We may just give up TTC eventually, we're so frustrated. What are you supposed to do when you want something so badly and can't have it? I just don't know. :( I've honestly considered every explanation--physical, stress, emotional, spiritual--and I have no idea why we can't get pregnant--even when we're trying every other day. Not sure what to do but give up. Anybody else this frustrated?

I am soooooo fraustrated!
My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 19 months. I started Clomid 50 mg last month with no success so this cycle was offered 100mg and I have 2 mature eggs ready to be fertilized by my hubby! Now this is the problem-he can perform any other day/hour/minute of the year BUT today and yesterday - nothing! I am so worried that we have wasted this chance because I never ovualte and after seeing those follicles on the screen I was soooo happy. But what is the point of them being there if no sperm are going to join them for a party!!!!!!!
I realise it's the pressure but my God it is soooooo annoying!