SAHM or Working Mom?

DO IT! I think all moms should stay home or work from home. In this day and age when kids all over he country are growing up with no parenting we see an incredible decline in society. MY DH and I both had SAHMoms and we are SO THANKFUL! I can't imagine not having that and I see how it has helped me become a stable successful adult with a good relationship to my family. My DH and I just started TTC and we have built our financial plans around the priority of my staying home because it is so important to us. If you need help planning your finances to make it happen, I HIGHLY recommend the book "Total Money Makeover". I also became a Mary Kay consultant to be able to flexibly contribute from home once I quit my full time job. There are lots of options to work from home if it is absolutely necessary but please stay with your baby. You can always find a way for what is most important and you can never undo what your child learns when someone else is raising them. Either way, it sounds like you have your hands full with a nice big family and I wish you luck!

I am 34yrs old and have four kinds from my first marriage, one girl and three boys. Me and my husband recently dicided to try to have a baby this year. I am not sure how I am going to feel about having to work after I have the baby. I never worked when my kids were babies. In this case we need both of our incomes but I also know how wouderful it is to stay home and raise the baby. So for the most part at the moment I will work and when the baby comes I will have to make a choice. Maybe find something that I can do out of my home and make up for some of the income.

I am a working mom have a 12 yr old and a 2 year old at home, my husband stays home with them and sometimes I feel angry with him because I am the one working and not him but really I am just glad that one of us gets to be there for our son and a daycare isn't raising him. I just feel like I miss out on so much sometimes it makes me sad.

I really get tired of cooking , cleaning and looking at these walls .
but i do enjoy spending time with my 2 year old . i often think that i would like to work out side the home but then there is so much that i would be missing with her. My son is 12 and i worked while he was a baby and now i have promblems with disapline bc i wasn't there he listens to everyone else except me. i don't know it has it highs & it's lows.

I am a SAHM. I have an 8 year old daughter and worked off and on. She hates it when I work. I also have a 7 year old step daughter. I honestly would hate trying to juggle a job, cooking, cleaning, and the kids. There is not enough time in the day. They often need help with homework. I've been in their classes on special days where parents are invited and saw children crying because their parents couldn't make it due to work. I also enjoy volunteering at the school, allowing me to be more involved with them and really knowing what is going on in there life. The older they get the less they want to do with you, so get as close as you can and enjoy it while it last! I know their friends, boyfriends ;), and people they "don't like". I can talk with them knowledgeably about their day. I don't have to stress about getting things done in the evening nor weekends. I spend that time with my family. We have rules and schedules, everyone knows and goes by. I honestly couldn't handle working too! Not to mention my kids would complain!

There's a lot of judgment between SAHM's and those who work outside the home. It's terrible and destructive. If you want to be at home, do it if you can. If you want to work, then do it and don't let anyone make you feel guilty about your choices!

The worst thing we can do as moms is run each other down for the choices we make. Don't you feel judged enough by everyone else, already, about the way you raise your kids? Moms need to stick together, here.