Conception Frustrations?

I Totally understand at age 36 just married 3 years trying for 1 year we got pregnangt and in the same breath that I found out we also lost the baby, It drives me crazy eveyone I know is pregant and then some..I totaly feel for Addison on Greys..
But at least we can keep trying

I totally know where all of you are coming from and I sympathize. My husband had a vasectomy when we married and we weren't able to afford the reversal procedure until June 2005. At the time of the procedure the doctor showed us pictures of the sperm and there were very FEW normal looking ones and he explained that was because the vasectomy was 15 years old and that the sperm had degenerated themselves because they had nowhere to go, and that within six months they should improve. So we began TTC in July 2005 and to date, we still have not conceived. I was so excited in the beginning! Everytime my period was late, I would run to the store to get a HPT, only to be disappointed when I got a BFN.

After a year passed with us not conceiving. I went to my gyno for my annual well woman and discussed our plans. He did a pelvic ultrasound on me and saw that I had a developing egg in my ovary at that time and did some blood work which indicated that my hormone levels were no where close to menopausal. My periods are still right on time each month like clock work, so he suggested that since everything appeared okay with me, that my husband get tested. A month later we went to the dcotor who performed the reversal procedure and my husband gave a sample. After a year, my husbands sperm had not improved. He had very few actual swimmers but most were not forward moving swimmers. To the lady who posted on the first page saying that it's not always the woman at fault when a couple cannot conceive, you are absolutely right. Sometimes, it's the man.

It's almost two years since the reversal procedure and although I still hope and pray for a miracle every month, I've given up hope for the most part. I'm happy for people who become pregnant, but it angers me that those who don't want babies or can't care for them properly can conceive so easily and someone who WANTS a baby, can't even have ONE :-(

I had no problem getting pregnant when I was 18...not planned at all and used protection faithfully. I even had a miscarriage 2 years ago while on an IUD. Now I have been married for a year and have been trying for a year and cannot get pregnant. We have tried the ovulation sticks, charting, taking temps, every position and legs up to my ears after even. We are already frustrated with the situation of NOT being pregnant...WHY DOES EVERYONE have to QUESTION us EVERY time they see me? Not both of us, just me. I mean it takes 2 to make a baby, why does the wife/girlfriend have to deal with the harrassment when she is the one with most of the emotional stress?

My doctor said to give it at least a year and a half since I was on birth control for 9 years. I understand that and I am trying to be patient...It's just not working now. What else is there that we can do???

I am totally there with all of you! We are starting month #3. The last two months were both exciting and disapointing all at the same time! It's like a roller coaster ride! We spend most of our younger years trying NOT to get pregnant, now I want to and I can't! I had no idea how hard it is and how tight the timeframe for conception is! We have so many people in the office who either just gave birth to a baby or just found out they were pregnant! I feel so innadequate:(

I am so totally with you!! I was married in 2002 and got pregnant 3 months later, we had a beautiful baby boy! I then stopped taking the pill in July of 2005 to have another. We have been TTC since then and to no avail!!! I have gone through every possible emotion. I am SO frustrated b/c it seems as though everyone else can get pregnant...even the people who don't want it or in my opinion deserve to be pregnant! Meaning people who don't take care and stop their bad habits of smoking and drinking and dangerous lifestyles!!! I don't do that and CANNOT get pregnant!! I so long for my child to have a sibling!!! He loves babies and would be a GREAT big brother! I know, I am absolutely happy that I have one child, but my husband and I come from big families and long to give that to our son, but it doesn't seem to be happening!! Our families keep asking when we will have another...I have prayed and CRIED so many times...I am angry and sad, I have so many emotions going through me. It really hit me hard when my brother-in-law told my husband that they may be pregnant and they just started trying in January 2007!!!!!! It is SO not fair!! I don't understand!?! Why is it SO hard...I had one, why can't I have more!? This is the first I have spoken(written) about it, I have not told anyone but my husband my problems. I just needed to vent and when I saw that you all were feeling the same way I just had to let it out!

It only took about 2 months to conceive the first time i got pregnant and I chose to have an abortion. Now I really want a baby with my fiance and it just won't happen. We have been trying for almost a year now and nothing is happening. I don't know whats wrong with me. My sisters had no problem getting pregnant and it seems like all my friends have kids. It's getting to the point where I don't want to join in on family functions cause I don't feel included since I don't have a child. My periods are very regular and I keep track of when I ovulate but still no luck, this is driving me crazy cause I want it soooo badly.