You, TTC, and Your Partner

My hubby is actually more involved then anyone else I have ever heard of. He asks me every month when I ovulate and a few days before I do he tells me to get in bed its time to make a baby. Then during the 2week wait he ask me everyday "are you okay? you bleeding?" He will cry with me when I get a BFN and he is the only reason we keep trying. I have wanted so many times to give up but he is my rock and pushs me to try again. You would think after the last 16months of nothing he would give up. He hasn't. He has even said if we have to do IVF he wants me to get 8 eggs in me and if the all make it he will be more then happy. He wants a big family and will be there with me through it all. From start to finish. I love him even more for that.

I was 3 months pregnant when welost our baby. My husband was standing beside me, holding my hand when the doctor was doing the ultrasound, and we saw that our baby's little heart was not flickering any more. We balled together in that lonely, cold doctor's office..just waiting for a miracle...waiting to hear the doctor say that he found the heart beat. But there was nothing, only a dead, overwhelmingly sad silence. My husband Travis held me everytime I balled for our baby. I would walk thru the house and just start crying, and no matter what he was doing, he would stop and just embrace me..comforting me with kind, sweet encouraging words. It has been 11 months since we lost our baby, and we still are not pregnant again. But My Travis just tells me that "It will happen when the time is right, we must wait in line for a soul again." Even though I want it NOW, right now might not be the right time according to God?? Who knows..but I do know that I have a wonderful man who is waiting very patiently with me, every step of the way. And for that, I so very thankful.

My husband and I are trying to get pregnant, again, my daughter is now 4 years old. He has been so wonderfull with me. He is always understanding when im on my period, and very patient with me on getting pregnant. I have irregular periods, and getting pregnant with my first took several years of NOT trying. I am hopeing that now that we are really trying to get pregnant, it goes quicker. but with my irregular periods, it gets very hard and discouraging everytime a new period rolls around. Because we would get excited whenever I skip or Im late. He has been so wonderfull about all of it. Very patient with my body and never angry about how long this is taking.

Yes, I would say he is there Physically, but emotionally, not much. He is not a very emotional person, so displaying emotions is something he is just not big on. With each passing month, and failed attempt, he does comfort me and says "We'll just keep trying" and sometimes he tries to make me laugh about it. When I talk to him about my concerns, he kinda listens, but has adopted the whole "It will happen when it happens" attitude. In his mind, he is not really "Trying". He just feels, if we make love and we get pregnant, that is all the better, but he isn't as involved in the madness that I go through every month with charting, fertility monitoring, taking meds, taking temps, checking cervial position and fluid, etc, etc, etc. I even asked him to keep track of my monthly cycle if he was seriously trying to have a baby right now. Maybe once we move, his attitude will change.

My fiance and I have been TTC since March of 2007. It seems like a short time compared to some of the ladies who have suffered with infertility for many years. I pity them all, and I share in a fraction of their pain. The one thing that gets me through this is having such a wonderful man in my life. I can not think of an easier way to get through this than with the loving support of your man. He is so sensitive to my needs emotionally. And he is right there every time I am fertile to do the do-naturally. He is kind to me each time I have told him that I am spotting or have started. He is right there with encouragement to keep me going. He gives me my moment to mourn the loss of yet another month without being pregnant with the child we both long for. Then, he says to me "It will happen, don't worry. We will do this if it is what God wants for us." So, I keep the faith and keep a smile, though I am crying on the inside. This is, afterall, for us both. We both don't get a baby when I don't get pregnant. We both have to wait, together. And the wait is worth it to me. He is going to be the perfect dad. I love him very much.