Conception Frustrations?

I have read so many of your stories and I can relate. My dh have been ttc for 28 months. That is 28 neg tests. I had to have a tubal reversal because after my daughter I had tubal done. (11 years before my reversal.) I remarried and my dh has no children. I want more children more then I can say. Spent sooo much money on reversal that we can't afford testing or meds. my dh lost job (downsizing) with the great benefits... So we have to pay cash for everything.
My heart aches all day and night for a baby. I am 39 years old and am scared I am running out of time.
People always say "you have children, why would you keep putting yourself through this?"
How do you explain the need and want, the desire and the love you have to give?
Help... Does anyone know what I should do next??

I have read many of the posts, and can relate. My husband and I have been TTC#2 for 2 years...or better yet, 24 months. Therefore I have dealt with about 24 negative preg test and the realization that again, month after month I am not pregnant. I was fortunate to have conceived once (my son will be 3 tomorrow), although the pregnancy was rough and I almost miscarried at 8 weeks. And as hard as those 9 months were, I wouldnt trade it for the world and look forward to it again. I have had a normal HSG, I have had genetic testing to be sure that is not part of the problem. I am a 'borderline diabetic' and have had adrenal gland/pituitary gland testing, all normal. So the doctors really arent sure why I can not conceive #2. I have lost 20lbs and am trying to lose more. I am on Glumetza for ovulation, and my fertility monitor says I am ovulating.
My biggest frustration is people's questions or comments like..."when are you guys gonna have another" or "you arent pregnant yet?!" or "just stop trying and it will happen"...GRRR! Some people just should not be allowed to speak. And then doesnt my sister, who already has 2 and can't even afford them, gets preg and since gave birth to her third!! So needless to say, I dont want to hold anyones 2 week old, or one year old for that matter, and no, I dont want to attend their baby shower either. My husband says it isnt good to be so angry, but i dont view it as being angry, I just dont want to be asked those stupid questions or end up saying something I will regret.

Anyone else dealing with secondary infertility?????

-BTW- I am also sick of people telling me that I should be thankful for the one I DO have. I am EXTREMELY grateful for the one I have, but like any woman who wants a baby, it is a part of you that is missing, not complete, I cant explain it any better than that....it is like a biological drive thing, my family is not complete until #2. =(

My husband and I have been trying since November...It is so frustrating, and I wish that I knew some secret way to get pregnant! Since we have been trying my husband's two younger sisters have gotten pregnant. One already has a 16 month old and the other is fresh out of high school...My brother in law and his girlfriend got pregnant within six months of being together. My husband and I have been together for five years and NOTHING!! I know that it will be happen, but I am so tired of wondering when...Now that I have vented, I feel a little better.

Ok....traveling down this long(and i do mean long) road of trying to conceive has been a roller coaster from you know where! My dh and I have been trying to conceive mostly on our own for 5 years. Finally started Clomid in Feb. gave up trying again in March when AF showed, and now in Aug. we have decided to give it a go again! This time with all the charting and test! this is my story...in 2003 i lost twins in week 14, i had placenta previa so doc wanted to wait a week before d&c, and we did. Fair to say i have not been the same since! nor have i been able to conceive. My husband and i , both 26, both have children from previous relationships(each a daughter), and so long for a son of our own to bring our happy family even closer. But the pain you feel each and every month when you look down and see red, when you just knew this was the month you were going to get pregnant, can be an emotional butt whoopin' to say the least! every so often i find myself giving it up(but really im still hoping) for the sake of not going in sane, and for the sake of our sex life(which we all know to well gets scheduled around ovulation when you are ttc)but the want we both have for that son is undeniable, so this time it will be different! i have a HSG scheduled for next tuesday, hoping and keeping my fingers crossed that it does not show some awful scaring from the d&c 5 years ago, hoping that it will increase our chance for conc. this round, and mostly hoping that i have the strength to go through ttc again....because it seems to be even harder when everybody(and i mean everybody) around me is expecting, or having a baby, or finding out they accidentally got pregnant...if I could be so blessed.....

btw- i am very new here, i find comfort in all of your stories, and any advice would be appreciated....Baby dust to all... keep fingers crossed that all goes well at HSG tuesday....

My hubby and I have been TTC for over a year now. A few months ago, we got a + preg test, and were totally thrilled, only to have our hopes crushed a few weeks later. "Spontaneous abortion", they called it. Those words ripped my heart apart. To me, abortion has always meant "getting rid of a problem or unwanted item." This child, to me, was neither of those. Why is it still so hard to move on?
We decided to pick up where we left off, and hope each month for that + test. Each month, AF decides to visit and our hopes get crushed again. Is it worth it to keep trying?
Dr.'s dk why the miscarriage happened, and don't want to start fertility treatments yet because we're both still young. My heart yearns to hold my baby. Does the pain ever stop? Will we ever be able to concieve?

Been TTC 5 months now. Had ruptured ectopic preg in 2003...lost one tube and part of one ovary in emergency surgery (on my honeymoon!). At 33 I'm REALLY feeling like my time is running out. AF came Aug 1...time to try again soon. Kinda feeling like I'm the only one that I know that hasn't had a child yet. Bummer of a day.