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Conception Frustrations?

If you're trying to conceive and it's taking longer than you had hoped, what frustrations are you running into? Is it that just about everyone around you seems to be pregnant? Or, something someone said? Or, is you-know-who (your mom, his mom...) pressuring you or asking when way too often? Does it sometimes feel like TTC is more like Trying to Cope?

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Posted by: KEEBEE on Sep 11, 2007
Conception Frustrations?



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Posted by: tennessee on Sep 7, 2007
Conception Frustrations?

Young and Restless for children.

So I'm 24, with a good job and fantastic husband. In March, after 3 years of marriage, we decided to start trying for a baby. A week after my ovulation phase, my body started changing and we just knew we were pregnant. I mean all the signs were there, swollen tender breasts, exhaustion, and most importantly no period. In fact, I ended up being 20 days late.

It was devasting when the doctor told us, I had just not ovulated that month and that what was worse I would have to go on medication to start. I now had a period every 2 weeks and the physical strain was unbearable. Now it's September and for two months I've averaged 24 days. My period is so much harder on me these days and the thought of conceiving has become a sore spot in our marriage.

We want children so badly and after watching one set of friends welcome a little boy this past week (our 5th baby this year) and two more announce their impending arrivals, I just want to scream. I know it can take up to a year for a normal, healthy couple, but I can't even get my body to perform right, let alone conceive.

After watching my sister try for nine years with no luck, my fear is I will find myself in her shoes. Desperately wanting a baby, but unable to conceive. I know I'm young, but try telling your heart that. Everytime I see a child I just want to cry.

For those of you able to conceive immediately, bless you. I'm happy for you. But for the rest of us, there's got to be some relief. Maybe I'll find it now. Who knows.

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Posted by: bump04 on Sep 7, 2007
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TTC its just not happening.....

Hey guys I was just reading everyones blogs and I feel the same way. I have been off of my Birth control since November of 2006. My husband and I havent used any form of Birth control for almost a year and nothing has happened. At first it didnt matter cause we werent trying, we just said that if it happens then it happens, but now we are actually trying and still nothing. I even chart my periods and we make sure we try to conceive on my ovulation days and still nothing.

Its so frustrating because all of my friends are getting pregnant. And they arent even trying and they arent married and they dont even want a baby. They have all told me that it was shock to be pregnant and that they dont want to be preganant and they dont want to be a mom. So how is it that they can get pregnant with out even trying but those of us who truly want a baby have no luck? It seriously upsets me and they are all getting bigger and have baby stories and I find myself getting discouraged. And my husband keeps asking whats wrong with us and he is so down about it and it makes me feel worse. he wants to be a daddy so bad.

And family keeps asking when are yall gonna have a baby, they dont even know we are trying, no one knows. But they still ask and it hurts so bad when they pressure me becuase we are trying and it just hasnt happened. And I then I start to wonder if something is wrong with one of us... im only 22 and his only 24 so it couldnt be age. Im just scared that maybe it will never happen for me.

My whole lifes goal is to be a good wife and a good mother. Not a movie star or a model or anything like that, just a good wife and mother. I feel like my dreams are slipping further and further away from me.

But I do wish everyone the best of luck and I hope each and everyone of you is blessed with a baby!

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Posted by: barbercl on Aug 29, 2007
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Could this finally be it?!!

My husband and I have been together for 5 years. We have been trying to get pregnant since we got married 2 1/2 years ago. Last year I went through 7 months of clomid shots and estogen pills. We were both tested. His test came back super. I was checked for blocked tubes and other things. Results, fine. We quit the treatments because they were more stressful than anything else we were trying. Since then my periods have become irregular and each month that I am late my husband swears that I am pregnant and one of his "boys" has finally cracked the egg. Each month we are faced with a bid disappointment. My last cycle started July 16. I started spotting very lightly on Aug. 16. It only lasted that one day. My breast are more sore than the usual "period" soreness that I get each month. We are in an unsually hot season here in NC and whenver I get into my after it has been closed up all day, my breast are in extreme pain when the built up heat in the car hits them. I have occasional nausea and this fluttery pulling feeling near my right ovary. I took a test a week ago and it was negative as every test I have taken has ever been. I'm not sure if I want to take another one now that I am actually late or wait another week to see if my period is going to start. Each month that I do get my period seems to be less of a blow to me than my husband. I am learning to come to terms with our lack of children. Sometimes I think God has other plans for me, He just has let me know what they are yet.

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Posted by: bitgoddess on Aug 26, 2007
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Issues after Depo

My husband and I decided that we were ready to have another child at the end of last year. My last Dep shot was 1 Aug 2006. I was on the shot for a year and a half after the birth of my son. My first year on Depo went fairly well, my only side effect was the mood swings. I really enjoyed not having a menstrual cycle. After that, it just started doing weird things with my body. We discussed the option of coming off the shot, but decided to wait a few more months. My body went really crazy after coming off the shot. My cycles were completely random and still have not sorted out. It only took 3 months to get pregnant with my son, and we weren't even trying. We both would like a sibling for our son before he gets too much older. Both my husband and I have siblings that we are not close to because of an age gap. He is 10 years younger than his brother, and I am 13 years older than my sister. My ideal age gap is 2-4 years between my son and his sibling. I was expecting to conceive shortly after coming off the Depo. However, I talked to some of my neighbors and co-workers and they have told me that it took them 2-3 years to get pregnant after coming off the shot. Is this a normal thing, or am I just too impatient?

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Posted by: spoofysgirl on Aug 26, 2007
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Live for today as well as hoping for the future

My partner and got married because we wanted to start a family and while we were happy as a couple it seemed right to get married before becoming parents. That was a year and a half ago. I'm 36 now. We're disappointed that it has happened for us yet.

I can relate to those ladies who say that some people tell them to get on with it coz they're getting older. Firstly, you can't plan when to meet the man you want to be the father of your children and also wanting it to happen doesn't make it happen so other people really should be more thoughtful when they pass comment.

We've seen the doctor and been checked out. Everything is ok with both of our bits so far and the next stage is to get my tubes checked. Of corse, it could just happen in the mean time. And as I'm learning, see the fertility doctor is no guarantee of success either.

I agree with all the previous posts in that ever since we've been trying it seems everyone around me is falling pregnant - whether they wanted to or not! Every month when my period is due I work out when the baby would be born and start to get excited. I read elsewhere about feeling the need to go to the loo "every trickle; every tickle" and its so funny coz that's exactly how it is.

I've come to realise though in listening to other women's stories, that there are worse things than not falling pregnant. Becoming pregnant and not going full term, or losing a child. And some women have had these things happen again and again. How awful.

My husband and I wish and hope so much for some children to make our lives complete but we shall be happy together regardless and grateful for the blessings we already have.

Good luck to all you TTC ladies! But don't let your life pass you by in the mean time.

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